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offlineInactiveK and I had been together for 5 years and living together for 2 years. We had had our share of problems (I met him as I was getting out of a bad engagement), and had even broke up last year in July only to get back together 4 months later.
He moved back into my place this past March and when he did, we had to consolidate our things as I had had to acquire a few during our first break up. In the consolidation, I clearly asked him if he was committed for good this time. I told him that if he had any doubt whatsoever, that I would gladly put some of my things in the garage or rent a storage facility until we had really decided where we were going to go. K assured me that he wasn't going anywhere this time and that I could trust him to sell my things. BIG MISTAKE!!
In May, I noticed a change in his behavior towards me, but he wouldn't ever address it with me. He started to contact me during the day less and wouldn't offer his work schedule (it changed every day due to the nature of his job) without me having to ask him. All I wanted to know was whether I needed to cook for 1 or 2 of us that night after I got home from work. When I told him I felt like he was being disrespectful to me, he told me that I'm never happy and that he felt he was having to check in with his mom all the time. So not true...I just wanted the common courtesy of knowing around when he planned to be home so that I didn't worry about him drinking and driving.
Fast forward to August, and things have been getting worse. He stopped being affectionate to me at all. He told me that he wasn't in love with me anymore. He started going out with his guy friends all of the time and some nights wouldn't even come home. I kept trying to give him his space hoping that he would realize what he was doing, and every time we would go out with mutual friends, he would get drunk and be so sweet to me.
After one particular drunken night, we woke up the next morning and I asked him if he really meant what he had said the night before and he told me that he didn't remember a thing from the night before. (He had told me that he loved me. That I was an amazing person and that he was so lucky to have me. That he couldn't wait to marry me.) Well I lost it basically. I told him what he had said and he told me I was lying because he had not been in love with me for months now. I asked him why he had continued to live with me and call me his girlfriend and he told me that he was hoping the feelings would pass but they hadn't.
At that point, I told him not to string me along and that I wanted him to move out. He left to stay with a friend and while he was gone, I packed up all of his stuff and put it in the garage. I told him that he needed to come get it within the next week and he said he would do his best. Well to this day, he has only taken his clothes and his golf clubs. I have since changed the locks and although his stuff is still in my garage, I plan to move it to a storage unit soon and send the key to his dad's house. I haven't talked to him in 3 weeks now, and although I'm completely heart-broken and still do not understand what went wrong, I know that the only way for me to heal and take back my life is to go completely no contact with him.
This is such a hard transition after spending the last 5 years of my life with him, but I know I'll eventually be OK...
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Make a hole, we have another corpse on our hands! 
Now StayStrong21's "old" dead relationship needs a proper burial, and a headstone of course!
OK get a shovel and bury the past (baggage), from here on in it's a new day.
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R.I.P.
Here Lies
StayStrong21's Old Relationship
5 Years
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