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I sent the following message via text.
Hi, I agree with your decision to take a break. I really believe it is the best for both of us right now. I have some big decisions to make and I need some time to think them over. I would really appreciated it if you didn't contact me during this time. I will be in touch when I am ready.
This was the hardest thing for me to do as I have always been there for him, through good and bad times. I can no longer be there for him and let myself go lacking though. I love me more. If it's meant to be, he'll be there waiting when the NC ends, if not, so long.
I will be coming here everyday for encouragement and I thank Scott for this website, it has truly been a good thing for me!
Roddy said:
I will be coming here everyday for encouragement and I thank Scott for this website
You're welcome for the help, but the real magic happens when you "support/encourage" the other forum members as well.
Come for encouragement and support, but don't leave without giving some back...make sense?
Stay Strong and Positive!
The hardest part will be breaking NC for the cruise (5 day cruise) in a couple weeks. We will be sleeping in seperate bed, that's for sure. I don't want to be rude or ignore him or anything, but I'm planning to have the time of my life! We're next door neighbors which is another thing I hate. I try to purposefully avoid going out when I know he's about to go to work.
My focus is getting my life back, which is well on the way. I workout quite a bit and I started back hanging with my buddies. I was so needy to where he would alway say Roddy, why don't you go do this, but I always wanted to be under him. I was a sad case. Not anymore! I am about to kick love's ASS royally!
Today has been a good day, I did received a "Hey" text today from him. I didn't respond though. Think I'll go back to the gym tonight and take a cruise on my motorcycle. I'm trying to heal as much as I can before our cruise a month from today.
Hi Roddy
It's good that you don't respond. He is trying to test the water. If he's respecting your nc message he would've not send you any text. Looks like you're on the way to get your life back!
stay stronggg!
xox
Thanks Sweetcalendula!
I'm a little confused on something. I know with NC we are not to respond to any contact our ex's make but I read MOMU where it said do not ignore your ex if they contact you to avoid being bitter. Can someone explain?
Our relationship may be different that most of the people on this forum being that we're two guys, but any insight or advice would be greatly appreciated. I wonder if our ex's think of us as much as we think of them.
It is a tricky situation in that when someone is trying to contact you and you try to avoid it, it is not a pleasant experience for you and can cause social withdrawal in a variety of contexts. Social withdrawal interferes with getting your life back.
Thanks Robot, any advice on our cruise together coming up in a month? Of course I will be cordial and smiling alot.
In MOMU, there is no NC message, so avoiding or ignoring contact may sound bitter, but you sent NC message where you asked not to be contacted and explained you need time. So if your guy can read he would understand right:D
Roddy said:
I'm a little confused on something. I know with NC we are not to respond to any contact our ex's make but I read MOMU where it said do not ignore your ex if they contact you to avoid being bitter. Can someone explain?
The difference is members are following the free plan on my Blog for NC guidelines.
And members are using MOMU for understanding how to deal with break up pain, how relationships work between two people, why they fail, and for reconnection strategies, if you even want to reconnect after your personal evolution.
Disregard the MOMU second chance letter, and the advice on no contact, I have rewritten that part and called it the free plan.
Why did I do that?
Because people started complaining that they weren't getting results.
After reading many many similar emails I came up with the free plan, and the forum support system.
Even though the plan is called the free plan to get your ex back fast, it is really about getting your life back, not your ex.
All this is explained in the about section on my Blog.
Plus if you read my articles on my Blog, you will better understand how I teach people to use the no contact rule.
It must be working because people are writing their success stories, and I see the other Guru's (marketers) imitating my system, and imitating it poorly.
Some fucking parrot might mimic my words, they don't "truly" understand how this works like I do.
After all, it was my vision.
What can I say, I came up with the theory, and I believe in it with my whole heart.
I truly believe it is a win-win situation, and I want everyone to come out a winner.
But winning always comes at a cost...freedom isn't free.
You have to earn it.
If you're willing to let go of a dead relationship, and a partner that doesn't love you as much as you thought they did, I promise you a happier personal life than you have right now.
But, people have to be serious enough to stick with the plan.
That is all I ask. You have to have courage, and pay it forward by supporting other members and giving them strength...not doubt.
Doubt is like a cancer that will not only kill your chances of success, but it will then spread to other members as well...spread hope, not doubt, courage, not fear.
If you don't believe this plan will help you, close your account and seek help somewhere you feel more hopeful.
There is a reason I named our forum How to Kick Loves Ass.
I hope this helped clear up a few things for everyone.
Stay Strong and Positive!
Roddy said:
Thanks Robot, any advice on our cruise together coming up in a month? Of course I will be cordial and smiling alot.
Your cruise is going to be challenging to say the least, but if you understand the main goal of NC, you should get through it.
Read my whole Blog along with the free plan until it sinks in.
I would skip the cruise if it was me, or give it to one of my friends.
I would rather sacrifice the money than go through all that discomfort of hanging around my ex for a week on a ship.
If you're going to feel uncomfortable or end up fighting, how much fun can that be anyways?
Just some food for thought.
Stay Strong and Positive!
Thanks for the feedback, I appreciate it. I wasn't doubting the plan, just thought I'd ask, was just a little confused that's all.
Pretty good day so far, headed out to the gym on my bike.....hadn't heard a peep from him since Saturday.
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Hi Roddy,
Gym is awesome. It's okay, don't worry about your ex for now. Have the whole focus on you right now okay. I haven't heard from him after I sent my second NC letter as well. Hopefully, he is evolving over there. You sound like you're on the right path now to get your own life back.
Regarding the cruise, I agree with SW. NC means total disconnection., well not to hide from him or anything, but to keep him outside your personal loop.
Take care there. xx
Okay, how about I just saw my ex partner for the first time in 4 months (since the breakup) and we live in the same apartment complex. I spoke, he spoke back, but I caught him looking up at my apartment as he went by, I was coming around the corner so he didn't see me at first. He didn't seem too happy. I still do love and care for him though, but so far he's respected my wish to not contact me.
Roddy said:
Okay, how about I just saw my ex partner for the first time in 4 months (since the breakup) and we live in the same apartment complex.I spoke, he spoke back
Hopefully you didn't engage in a full conversation.
If you just said, "hi" and he said "hi", no problem, you were both just being polite.
4 months is not enough time to evolve past the breakup, stick to NC for another 8 months and see how things feel then.
Stay Strong and Positive!
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