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I HATE SPAM! Read Our Privacy PolicyPosted 7 months ago polkadotpandas
offlineMemberhey thanks jasmine and crunchie. to willsucceed, believe it or not it gets better with time. I'd be a liar if i said I don't think about her at least once a day but its gotten to a point where I can wish her happiness each time I think about her and smile. I've forgiven her for everything and I can only hope that she has forgiven me as well. It's really hard to fathom the idea, I used to wanna punch people in the face when theyd tell me it gets better but the fact is...it does. be patient and keep your head up. when people on the forum say stay strong and positive listen to those words its so true.
@Crunchie, i decided to just be friends with girl #1, i dont see a long term relationship with her to be honest but I am in contact with girl number 2 and i don't wanna jinx it and say well be a couple soon enough but i'm pretty hopeful. Glad to hear your out and about dating, its a great way to boost your ego xD.
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offlineInactivepolkadotpandas that is truely an amazing story...from reading your story I know that I am signifcantly older...however you are never to old to learn, regardless of age...great work my man...i can tell you have that "It" factor...you are going to be great at whatever you decide to do...keepe up the great work!!!
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polkadotpandas
offlineMemberhi guys, its been a while since i've been online. It seems now im plagued with a new dilemma xD I really really like the girl I mentioned previously. I just don't know how to bring myself to tell her. I mean i assume she has an idea but we never actually said it to each other. I really really want it to work out between us so I don't want to make the wrong move and mess up my chances all together. i know for sure this isnt a rebound as I waited out 6 months with a ton of healing and correcting flaws before I contacted her. I don't know how to tell her that i still like her after 3 years without seeming a little psycho xD I want to have a face to face conversation and tell her but she wont be back home til january and i doubt shell stay single for that long. she's extremely pretty with a great personality so someone might make their move before me.
my ex, who brought me here might be my first love, but to be completely honest i think i can fall harder in love with my old flame. any thoughts and suggestions would be greatly appreciated
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Posted 7 months ago how about going out as friends - coffee, drinks...to get to know each other better?
God grant me the serenity to accept things that I cannot change....
The first step toward change is acceptance.
Change is not something you do, it's something you allow.
Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you.Posted 7 months ago #-
polkadotpandas said:
I don't know how to tell her that i still like her after 3 years without seeming a little psycho xD I want to have a face to face conversation and tell her but she wont be back home til january and i doubt shell stay single for that long. she's extremely pretty with a great personality so someone might make their move before me.You don't have to tell her so soon, just slowly show her with your actions, be patient.
Don't fool yourself into believing that you have to act fast before someone else gets her. If that happens (she falls for someone else) then you two wouldn't have worked out anyways.
Rushing into relationships is a big mistake, and will end you up back in heart break hotel.
Take it slow, don't do anything out of panic, or desperation.
Stay Strong and Positive!
AngeLBeaR said:
how about going out as friends - coffee, drinks...to get to know each other better?
"If we will be quiet and ready enough, we shall find compensation in every disappointment." ~ Henry David Thoreau ~
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offlineMemberThanks for the replies, I wish coffee and a sit down is possible but unfortunately she lives 5 states from me and only comes home a few times in a year.
Although I did manage to send flowers and a hand written letter just recently telling her how I feel. And its working, I'm pretty sure she likes me as well. We've already made plans for when she comes home. But I very much want this to work out so I'm willing to wait it out for a while and take things extremely slow. I don't want to rush it just so I can call her my girlfriend.
As for my ex, I haven't talked or seen her since our last encounter. I take that as the final curtain call, which is totally fine with me I bowed out gracefully than the last time. I'm so much happier now. I forget now how badly it hurt when she left but I'm glad for her if shes way happier. Recently though I heard that she had a falling out with all our mutual friends, I guess they didn't like the new her. I feel bad for her but since I'm no longer her boyfriend that's not my business anymore, its the new guys. Now, I honestly believe that I really was her good luck charm. Everything that she received while we were together is slowly departing.
So a message to all those that are still heart broken, keep your heads up. In the end everything will be alright, and if it's not...well that just means you haven't gotten there yet, so be strong until then. You'll be glad you do
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Posted 4 months ago polkadotpandas
offlineMemberThe last time I posted on the forum I was busy too with school that I didn't have much of a chance to really update my situation. Now that I'm on break I've been too busy catching up with friends before they go back to school or military. But I wanted to start this post with my score from a quiz: are you over your last relationship?
"Your score is 15. Congratulations! You're over it!! You've let go, healed your heart and are ready to open up to somebody new. Not so sure you can picture yourself with somebody new yet? Don't worry, this doesn't mean that you're clinging to the past, it just means that you're not yet ready to love again. There is a difference between being with somebody new and being over a relationship and the fact that you don't want your ex but still don't want anybody else is very healthy. When you're ready you'll find someone new. And if you've found that new somebody special rest assured that your heart is free to really be with them. Well done!"
The great news is that I have moved onto someone new
So much has happened so I really don't know how and where to begin lol and not just with the new girl but with life in general. For starters, I finished my first semester as a sophomore with awesome grades and am currently dedicating my winter break to meeting up with as many of high school friends as possible before we part ways again. All of them comment on how much happier I am now and how much more outgoing I am. They now refer to my ex as my "ball and chain" lol. I never noticed it at the time but I was under a lot of restriction due to her insecurities. Many of my friends claim that they never really approved of the relationship but because I was a good friend they tried their best to tolerate her. They tell me that the reason I was never really included in a lot of group activities was because that would mean I'd have to bring her along. Now my phone blows up with so many invites, text messages and calls with people wanting to hang out. I'm willing to bet that my ex does not have this luxury except with the new guy she's seeing. How do I know? I talked to my friends and they say when they find out she's going they purposefully flake because they don't want to be around her. So that just leaves her to hang with her other guy and his friends lol I can only imagine how much that sucks.My ex's name does still come up in conversations lol its inevitable but I have no more rush of emotion, and it's usually in a joking manner. It's great how I can now laugh at all that I've been through. I can only hope that she's doing well in her new relationship since I seems right now that's the only happy thing she has going for her since we broke up and she had a falling out with ALL of our mutual friends. Karma? I think so. Me on the other hand have been a blast with all my friends! I've gotten even closer to them now that I'm single haha.
Finally, saved the best for last
remember my old high school flame? well I waited for her to come home for winter break and to save you all from the long details. I took her out on a date that's only found in the movies. I'm talking fine dining in a penthouse restaurant, and a private beach fire randevous. I've never been so nervous on a date in my life. Not even with my ex. Normally, I can easily make a girl blush and with a few sweet words and gestures. Most of the time I don't really mean what I say to them. I'm just a grade A flirt, but this one's different. She turned the tables on me and made me blush and stutter and forget my lines. As clumsy and nervous as I was I think I must have left an impression, because I saw her nearly everyday she was home. She was even the one that asked to be my date at my friends wedding. I think I also left a really good impression on her family. My mom raised me to be mindful of the girl's parents so before I asked her out on a date I thought it was only proper to ask her mom for permission (I did this before she came home). When I first asked she laughed at me and asked why I would ask her for permission and I explained that in my head it wouldnt be right if I didn't at least let them know that their daughter would be out with someone they never met. Her mom loves me to say the least. I got a personal invite from the mom to drop her off at the airport. She even calls me her daughters "honey, babe, or boyfriend" 
this made the wait at the airport a little awkward between us. Our mom's (we both have single mothers) really wants to meet each other, haha which is great and all but I think their moving faster than we are lol.Sorry for the long winded read guys but that's what's been up with me as of late.
Also, my potential girlfriend told me some really encouraging words that I want to share with you guys."People like her, don't deserve someone like you :D" So folks people like our ex's don't deserve people like us who are willing to give them the world. If we are willing to give such a gift I think we deserve the world as well.
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willsucceed
offlineMemberpolkadotpandas, so good to hear you are doing so well. Thanks so much for sharing the story of connecting with your new girlfriend with us. I know I'd be interested in another update as your new life progresses.
As a woman, I found this very interesting to read:
Normally, I can easily make a girl blush and with a few sweet words and gestures. Most of the time I don't really mean what I say to them.
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polkadotpandas
offlineMemberThat sounds terrible now that I read it
what I meant to say is that I don't mean it with the intention of going further than a compliment. When I say nice things to them I do mean it and its generally easy for me to say with girls but I don't think it's anything more than a compliment. Sorry for the confusion
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