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I met my ex boyfriend in June 2011 in a rock climbing gym since we are both climbers. We met through a climbing forum where you can post requests for partner calls. A week later we both went outdoor climbing and camping for a weekend since both or our regular climbing partners were injured. A week after that there was a long weekend holiday and we went for a camping and climbing trip again for 3 days with other friends as well. In this trip he asked me out, said he really liked me and shortly afterwards we started dating. I wanted to take things very slow, but he came very strong, was spending all his time with me, we were going on outdoor climbing trips every weekend. During the week we were talking and texting everyday and spending about 3 days staying over at eachothers place. The first 4 months were amazing. I really started liking him. He was consistent with his message to me saying I was the one for him. He also insisted I spend my weekends with him, which I thought was sweet. After that he started getting mean, saying not very nice things to me. Everytime this happened and I would get upset, he would after sometime be very apologetic and come see me. After a couple of times though, when he argued about something, he started saying we are not right for eachother and broke up with me for the first time, I think about 6 weeks back. I would not get in touch with him after he broke up, but after about 2 to 3 days of not talking, we would start texting me and calling me till I finally would agree to meet him. When we met, we would talk about our arguement like adults and make up. Things would be normal for a week or two, till he would say or do something really mean and insulting again and when I get upset, he would break up. I would stop contact and then he would start contacting me in 2 to 3 days again to try and talk to me face to face. Sometimes I felt it was my fault and I would make up with him and try and change the things that he said bothered him, until next time for something very small he broke up with me again.
This happened about 3 times and everytime after he broke up, i would stop contact and he would start texting me and calling me non stop till I met with him and we would make up. Making up always followed with him coming over to my place and us having a very emotional reunion followed by sex.
A week back after an arguement we had, he broke up with me again. This time though, He broke down and we were both crying. He was weeping like a child and confessed that he has been treating me meanly because he is actually not ready for a serious relationship. He does not see himself settling in a relationship right now. We spent the whole evening crying, talking, crying some more and I asked him to go away and sort his life out. I also told him I understand if he is not ready to settle, but he shouldn't have mislead me in the beginning of the relationship, when I was skeptical and wanted to take things slow. There was no need of explicitly telling me time and again that he knows what he wants, and it's me he's been waiting for and that he wants to do everything in the future with me. He also had suggested we move in together etc. His response was that he genuinely felt that way at that time and only now realizes that he is not ready. I asked him to leave. I told him I understand, but he should not try and get back with me now. I haven't contacted him since a week. It's been very very hard. I spent a lot of time with him the last 6 months. He was not only my lover but my friend and since May we have been going outdoors climbing and camping almost every other weekend. Over the period of the last 6 months, I did fall in love with him and am hurt.
Like his regular pattern he started texting me after about 4 days back of no contact. This time though, he is not asking to see me. He is only sharing with me how hard it is for him and that he is all alone. He is also insisting we remain friends. I have not contacted him, not replied to any texts, not picked up any phone calls. Nothing. Yesterday I have sent him the No Contact messgage that is posted in my no contact diary after reading the blog and the " Free Plan"
My ex is 27 year old guy and I am 33 year old woman. Also I wanted to mention that in Dec 2010 I separated from my husband of 3 years after he confessed that he cheated on me. I filed for divorce in June 2011. I met my ex boyfriend in May 2011. The divorce process takes a year and the final papers will be issued by the court in Jan 2012. It was a friendly divorce and my ex husband and I did not have any nasty fights. Just that he confessed to cheating on me and left the decision on me. I wanted to divorce him and we respectfully went through that process.
Thanks for reading my break up story
Misty
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