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offlineInactiveOkay Guys so Ima have to start writing this over again!!!!! It erased the first time.
So me and my ex had 8 years and a half together, and almost 2 years living together. We have a almost 4 year old son. We have had many ups and downs, we both did our share of stupidity throughout the years, but regardless of everything we always tried to work it out. He is a great guy with flaws like any of us, but his biggest one was the lying. In many occassions he lied when it came to women. When I met him I was a virgin, so he was the first man I made love to and the man I had a child with. But he was always a flirt. Througout the years I got disspointed of the chatting with some girls online and me having to find out because of snooping around. To a point we broke it off and I started seeing someone else. My ex stuck by me throughout the whole time being there for me and everything, I know he suffered a great deal those 6 months, but after the wait and after me and that guy ended we decided to give it another try. After that we went to vacation and when we came back he got his own place and we had our son. After a year or two I felt confident enough in our relationship and moved in with him. But things wasnt that great we would constantly argue because I would accuse him of cheating or talking to other girls, and It got to the point where I wasnt sure I loved him, I didnt even want to have sex with him, and that started deteorating our relationship even more. But things changed when this past July 2010, he broke up with me saying he didnt want to be with me no more, so I moved out. While I left those 4 days he had brought another girl to our place and had sex with her in my bed! But he didnt tell me when he asked me to come back, his excuse he was scared to lose me. I found out weeks later because she told me! When that happened I was so hurt, but I didnt want to lose him, I realized I was in love with him. But at that point he told me he loved me but wasnt in love with me any longer, so throughout those months I tried my hardest to make it work, I was being tender, sweet, active in bed and even cooking. But I noticed that he was still quite different. Then In Novemeber he started chatting with some girl in facebook and we would have arguments because of it, because he would like all her pics, but his excuse was that his trying to get people to come to his performances when he sings. He even made a professional music video with her and after that I noticed more the change in him. But then i got tired of it and told him I was going to leave and instead this time told me it was for the best and that he wasnt going to try anymore because he doesnt want to hurt me. That he still loves me but is for the best. AFter I left I wanted to come back, but this time he didnt want me to come back, I said if he didnt love me over the phone and he said he didnt love me, I was devastated I begged, pleaded, cried and everything in between, felt like I was going to die. Then after he said he doesnt know how he feels, he said he sometimes feels he loves me others he feel he doesnt, that he is confused. But then the day after I left he started talking to that girl, he says they only friends but thats because she says she doesnt want a relationship. But he texts her over 40 messages a day. when they speak on the phone is for over 3 hours at night, like what friends speak this much? It has been over a month since we saparated, but I was still having sex with him like an idiot, thinking that will change anything(He even told me once that I think that things will change just because we do, but it doesnt). But then I found out by the girl he likes her and when I asked him he denied it at first but then said yes. She had told me that she only sees him as a friend, and that she didnt want to hurt his feelings, but shes being a hipocrite because she calls him answers his calls and everything else to give him some hope. After that is like I tell him how can you be her friend if you like her, he says that they only cool friends, that she doesnt want more than that and so does he, but if thats the case why do you speak so much? And plus the other day I heard his voicemail and she left him a voicemail saying "hey baby, I miss you baby" and when I confronted him about it he said that is the way she speaks, and I asked him if he calls her the same he said yes sometimes, but that they only "friends". I then said you see you dont ever see us together again he said thats not true, and am like please like you see us together in the future and he said yes. He confuses me. Hes a good guy with many flaws but right now hes being the worst jerk ever, he has time to call her but not his son! Which hurts me. He tells me I will always be important in his life, that he will always need me and he doesnt want to lose me. And when I started before the NC I would only last 3 days because on the fourth day I would break it, because he would call me the day before saying he misses me and he doesnt know why and all this crap. I feel like all the hope is lost, that I lost him forever and will never be able to get my family back. Hes really into this girl and I feel the only reason why they are not together is because of her not him, I know once she says yes to him I will lose him for good. But I want to be able to let go so I can be happy, so I wont feel down or cry all the time am trying to be strong but is has been hard this month in a half. Please guys I need help!"Long term happiness, over short-term hurt".Posted 4 months ago #-
Make a hole, we have another corpse on our hands! 
Now Maddy18's "old" dead relationship needs a proper burial, and a headstone of course!
OK get a shovel and bury the past (baggage), from here on in it's a new day.
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R.I.P.
Here Lies
Maddy18's Old Relationship
8.5 Years
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