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I HATE SPAM! Read Our Privacy PolicyPosted 8 months ago LifeBackFirst
offlineInactiveI sent my NC message 3 days ago. It is:
Hi,
I agree with you about the decision to break up, I really believe it was the best thing for both of us. I have some big decisions to make and I need some time to think them over. I would really appreciate it if you didn’t contact me during this time. I will be in touch when I am ready.
He sent me an email over two weeks ago which i didd'nt respond to. He has not responded to my NC message.
Posted 8 months ago #-
Hello..!
Hope we can support each other to go thru this.
God grant me the serenity to accept things that I cannot change....
The first step toward change is acceptance.
Change is not something you do, it's something you allow.
Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you.Posted 8 months ago # -
Jetlag
offlineInactiveHi there! Welcome to the forum. Dont wait for his answer. I doesnt matter that he answers or not. Focus on yourself and try to do fun things.
Mine replied a moment after I sent him the letter. I was then tempted to reconnect with him and screwed up by telling him that I'd call him. I almost got banned from this forum
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Posted 8 months ago zuzan
offlineInactiveHI...
welcome to the forum..well mine also didnt reply to me....its been days..but i dont mind it at all.it dosent mattor wether they reply or not what does mattors is that u should get YOUR LIFE BACK FIRST!
ask from ur heart wether u are ready to get him now.at this point..are u mentaly fit??wether u got over with the break up??did u get u r life back???
well my answer is i am not ready yet...still, at some points i am struggling.....
pationce will give u better answers....
stay strong...focus ur self on YOU!!!!
gud luck!
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Flirtishia
offlineMemberHi all,
I am also new to this forum. But you guys and girls inspire me so much and I am glad I am not alone in here. We need to stick together and support each other mentally and emotionally until we get through the tough time.
I sent my first NC few days ago and had an immediate reply from my ex but didn't reply back and do not want to break the rules and contact him until I am mentally fit.
I was very down this morning but after reading few stories in here I told myself I need to be strong and get through this no matter what...
I wish you all best of luck in making any decision at the end of your NC period and keep up the good job.
We need to get our lives back first and if our Ex-s deserve us we can get them back too.
Flirtisha xxxPosted 8 months ago # -
sweetcalendula
offlineMemberHey guys, welcome to the forum! Stay strongggg and positive! Focus on our lives first okay!
Xoxo
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LifeBackFirst
offlineInactiveThis is Day 5 of NC and I almost broke it yesterday! I panicked for a few hours. I made the mistake of telling some friends about the message I sent and a few of them were shocked. They said it makes it sound like I dont give a shit about him anymore. I love him very much and he loves me too. I diddn't want to hurt him with the NC message, and I don't want him to think I don't care, but this is about ME. Plus, NC makes the EX think about what they really want from you. The truth.
I will stay strong !!!!!
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Posted 8 months ago elle
offlineMemberHope your keeping well
its best to avoid telling people about the no contact message cuz people often don't understand it. Just like when you first stumbled across this site you probably were hesitant and skeptical at first but then after researching the free plan, it just made sense. Don't be put off by them not understanding, just don't talk to them about it cuz it will only make you hesitant and you'll start doubting yourself. NC works but only if you work it.
Were all here to help you through.
Positive thoughts
Xx
Turn your face to the sun and the shadows fall behind you.Posted 8 months ago #-
elle said:
its best to avoid telling people about the no contact message cuz people often don't understand it.Exactly!
Find a forum buddy or two, and exchange contact information, they will give you much better support than your friends will.
Don't talk about the plan or NC with your friends, they will relay this back to your ex, and that will be VERY counterproductive.
Stay Strong and Positive!
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LifeBackFirst
offlineInactiveMy ex sent this message to me on facebook after 2 previous comments on my status. What does this mean ?
"I want you to know that I'm working on improving things too. It's still too soon, but I look forward to the time when we spend some time together again. No matter what (my name) you are such a special man to me. It's still pretty painful for me, but time helps all things. xooooooo "
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sweetcalendula
offlineMemberHey there,
What are your comments in fb? Mmmm. Your ex is most probably trying to make you break NC, trying to check on you as well and make you talk to him. Ignore it! And I guess it's best if you delete him or deactivate your account... NC means total disconnection, you wouldn't wanna peek on him or vice versa. It will hinder your evolution.
Stay strong!
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Posted 8 months ago sweetcalendula said:
Your ex is most probably trying to make you break NC, trying to check on you as well and make you talk to him. Ignore it! And I guess it's best if you delete him or deactivate your account... NC means total disconnection, you wouldn't wanna peek on him or vice versa. It will hinder your evolution.
LifeBackFirst said:
My ex sent this message to me on facebook after 2 previous comments on my status. What does this mean ?It means it is time to block your ex, or close your FB account.
This is all just words, words meant to get under your skin and cause a reaction.
What you need to look at is your ex's lack of respect for your NC message.
You said do not contact me, not send me fucking riddles on FaceBook.
Actions speak louder than words, and your ex's actions say I care more about myself than I do about you.
Stay off FaceBook...remember you can get banned for talking about it on our forum (read the forum guidelines)
Stay Strong and Positive!
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FREE Step-by-Step BREAK UP SURVIVAL PLANPosted 8 months ago #-
LifeBackFirst
offlineInactiveOk so i screwed up majorly. First let me start by saying its been nearly 5 months since I posted here. I sent my ex the NC message via email as above, and got no response. 6 days later I broke down and called him
Since then he and I have had "limited contact" every month with each of us initiating contact at some point. My ex told me that he wanted me to know that he was working on improving things too, and though it was still to soon, he looked forward to the time when we spent some time together again. He said no matter what I am such a special person to him and that it was still pretty painful for him. That was in September.
The end of October comes and my Ex comes in to my JOB with his friends dressed up for Halloween. The next day he FB me to say it was nice to see me, although brief. Mid November we met for lunch, and he told me that it wasn't a reunion. The next week, my birthday, he sent me a beautiful card online (something none of my friends did !) and told me he loved the lunch we shared, and hopes we do it again soon. He said we will keep in touch and be very dear to each other no matter what. I invited him to my Bday party the next day, and we proceed to tell each other many things while under the influence of alcohol (most I don't remember), and he headed home. The next day we talked about the night before, and he said he diddn't think he was in love with me anymore, and don't wait for him, I don't want you to hold on to something that may never happen blah balh blah.... So I told him I can't be his friend, and we agreed that it was too soon to be talking/seeing each other, but we would go with the flow.
I finally realized that I've been in relationship LIMBO since September, and I wanted my life back. January 3rd, I sent him the NC message again by TEXT. I don't think he ever got the first one because when I sent the text he responded IMMEDIATELY! He said " he is sad about all of it, but will respect my wishes." Two weeks later, (2 days ago) I get a text from him saying he knows not to conctact me, but he misses me!!! He has never texted me that since we broke up. EVER! He proceded to send me 4 more texts 15min apart saying he missed me ALL the Time, said goodnite, called me my pet name (which he hasn't since the day we broke up,) and said sorry. Then he texted saying he wasn't sorry for missing me, but sorry for contacting me without my permission and I miss you once more!!! WTF!!!!
The next day I was at the bus stop, and he showed up by chance. He offered me a ride to the bus station, which I denied at first, then accepted. We rode in silence till the end. I gave no personal info. Before I got out, I looked at him and asked why he had texted me and called me our pet name. He got really upset and told me that he still has feelings for me, and kissed me on the neck. I said I had a lot of work to do, and I wasn't ready to talk about any of that yet, and I meant what I said in my NC text. I said bye and he said it wouldn't happen again. Do I send the NC message all over again? What do I do, and what does this mean? HELP !!
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LifeBackFirst said:
First let me start by saying its been nearly 5 months since I posted here. I sent my ex the NC message via email as above, and got no response. 6 days later I broke down and called him Since then he and I have had "limited contact" every month with each of us initiating contact at some point.
What fucking plan are you following?
I am positive you're NOT following the free plan, because it recommends using "no contact", not "limited" contact.
LifeBackFirst said:
What do I do, and what does this mean? HELP !!What does it mean?
It means when you don't follow the plan, your results suck.
What should you do?
You should go look somewhere else for guidance, why?
You obviously cannot to commit to a plan and follow through, therefore I can not help you.
Buh-bye!
Special Note - She had been a member for almost 5 months, and never once posted on anyone else's diary...nice.
Problem solved!
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