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Ldrof11-My No Contact Diary
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Kick-Loves-Ass
Posted 1 year ago -
Ldrof11
offlineInactiveHi, I agree with you about the decision to break up, I really believe it was the best thing for both of us. I have some big decisions to make and I need some time to think them over. I would really appreciate it if you didn’t contact me during this time. I will be in touch when I am ready.
Posted 1 year ago # -
Great Job Ldrof11!
Go read some NC diaries and find yourself a Break Up Buddy.
Keep up the good work, and...
Stay Strong and Positive!
"If we will be quiet and ready enough, we shall find compensation in every disappointment." ~ Henry David Thoreau ~
"If you don't think finding true love is worth risking a broken heart, then, you don't deserve it."
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Kick-Loves-Ass
If you really want to know how he feels, and you really want him to know how you feel - talk to his heart.Posted 1 year ago -
Nepenthe
offlineMemberWelcome ldrof11. Ive been here 18 days and already feel so much better. The support and accountability make it much easier to do NC and focus in ourselves.
Hope you stick it out. A year from now you'll be so glad you did!Posted 1 year ago # -
ohdarling77
offlineInactiveGreat job sending the NC!
Keep us posted on how you are doing and make sure you are focusing on caring for yourself and doing things that make YOU happy!
Posted 1 year ago # -
Ldrof11
offlineInactiveHello, so far no contact is going pretty well. I started a journal and I am figuring out ways to change myself for the better. I have been reading the magic of making up course and it's also helping me figure things out. My one main concern right now is, what if she starts getting annoyed by me ignoring her? Over this month will be her birthday so with no contact I won't be able to say happy birthday, which will suck but it's for the best, but what if she starts to get frustrated or angry with me for not talking to her? Do I still just leave her alone? I just thought I'd ask so I could get the answer and make the right decision before the situation comes up.
Posted 1 year ago # -
Kick-Loves-Ass
If you miss her "real bad", and you want to get your ex-girlfriend back, you need to take a look at this.Posted 1 year ago -
Ldrof11 said:
My one main concern right now is, what if she starts getting annoyed by me ignoring her?This where she learns about the old proverb: You can't have your cake, and eat it, too"
Unless you're a baker.
She needs to find out what her life will be like, without you in it.
She can't (and shouldn't), have it both ways.
Life is series of choices, you make them, and, then you live with them.
That is why you make your choices, wisely.
Ldrof11 said:
but what if she starts to get frustrated or angry with me for not talking to her? Do I still just leave her alone? I just thought I'd ask so I could get the answer and make the right decision before the situation comes up.It was very wise of you to have the foresight to ask ahead of time.
Not after you fuck up, and, break NC.
Just ignore her, you are not in her life anymore, and, that was her decision.
Now, she has to live with it.
Focus on yourself, and, evolving past the breakup.
When you leave her alone, she will start to do the same.
Keep up the good work, and...
Stay Strong and Positive!
"If we will be quiet and ready enough, we shall find compensation in every disappointment." ~ Henry David Thoreau ~
"If you don't think finding true love is worth risking a broken heart, then, you don't deserve it."
FREE Step-by-Step BREAKUP SURVIVAL PLAN
Click Here to LEARN "ADVANCED RELATIONAL SKILLS" TO GET YOUR EX BACKPosted 1 year ago # -
Nepenthe
offlineMemberYeah. What Scott said. You're afraid if you make her mad there will be no chance of a future. Well, tough. Thats her choice. You deserve better.
I remember after my break up my ex would get mad at me for not being at her beck and call, , so i'd say "So if I don't do what you ask, not only are you going to divorce me, you're going to double divorce me"... lol.Posted 1 year ago # -
Ldrof11
offlineInactiveWell, it's been a week and everything is slowly getting easier and better. I am doing things to make myself better, and looking through all the things that went wrong before. I have figured out that most of it is from me not giving her enough space and all that, so what I did right after the breakup really didn't help anything. I have the date for the end of 30 days set in my calendar so I can know when the days are up and fully decide if I'm ready to contact her again. It's kinda hard not to be around her because we still go to school together, but I haven't said anything to or around her since no contact started. I am looking around for all the help and guidance I can get, and I have put together a game plan of what I am going to do over the next few weeks. I've just gotta try and show her I've changed and gotten better, and if she doesn't like it then at least I've gotten better for myself. Either way I should be much happier after this time off, I still just wish I would've done the no contact in the first place, now I just have to focus on myself and try to get her, or someone else, to see what a great guy I am. I'm also gonna try a few subtle tactics to make her a little jealous since there's a dance tomorrow that we will both most likely be at and I feel that if she sees me with other girls she might get a bit jealous. Mostly I'm just working on myself, and following the guide, and other resources, to help get me better and possibly get her back in the future.
Posted 1 year ago # -
Kick-Loves-Ass
If you miss him "real bad", and you want to get your ex-boyfriend back, you need to take a look at this.Posted 1 year ago -
Ldrof11
offlineInactiveSo far it's been going pretty well and all I've done is seen her around school and classes, but nothing else for almost two weeks. It's getting easier to leave it alone and be happy working on myself. I have gotten into better routines about most of the things I do, and I'm working to make myself a better person. I don't think she went to the dance, but I was there and I met a few new people and it helped me get back a lot more of my confidence. I have been looking through many guides and coming up with a plan for what I will do after no contact. I will either go the route of starting over and forgetting our past, which will most likely happen, or I will leave her to have a good life and not contact her again if I decide that's what I truly want. Either way I am making myself happy and working to improve my life. I know that what I did wrong before was that I made it too easy for her and became boring to her because I did everything for her and never left her alone, and it sucks that I didn't realize that sooner but at least I've learned that lesson. If I try to start over with her then I know what to do differently, if not then I won't do that same thing with the next girl I meet, but either way I have learned that lesson. So, it's going pretty well and I'm hoping we can forget the past, but if she can't then there's nothing I can do, but if she can then I have a good feeling that our amazing relationship together can be even better know that we know the flaws. But either way I will have my life back and I am going to be a better man for myself.
Posted 1 year ago # -
Ldrof11 said:
But either way I will have my life back and I am going to be a better man for myself.That's right
No matter how it might seem at first, everything happens for a reason, a good reason.
Keep up the good work, and...
Stay Strong and Positive!
"If we will be quiet and ready enough, we shall find compensation in every disappointment." ~ Henry David Thoreau ~
"If you don't think finding true love is worth risking a broken heart, then, you don't deserve it."
FREE Step-by-Step BREAKUP SURVIVAL PLAN
Click Here to LEARN "ADVANCED RELATIONAL SKILLS" TO GET YOUR EX BACKPosted 1 year ago # -
Kick-Loves-Ass
Posted 1 year ago -
Ldrof11
offlineInactiveHey! It's all going pretty well and I am talking to other girls and making new friends. I learned that I was too needy so when we broke up and I acted needy it didn't help the way she saw me. I know there is still love, I just lost her attraction because I wasn't the man she needed sometimes and I lost myself during the relationship. I have found who I really am and I'm trying to become the person she fell in love with, but I'm still kinda skeptical if it'll all work. I am still working with programs to help get her back, and I'm hoping when I do contact her we can start a new beginning and forget the past. It sucks because I know we are great for each other, but I messed it up and I may never get a chance to fix it. I have told a couple girls that I will hang out with them, but I can't really promise a relationship at that time because it will most likely be a rebound and that wouldn't be fair to them. I have learned that I want my ex, but I acted like I needed her and hat pushed her away, so I'm just hoping to get a chance to fix all of this one day, and I know if I get the chance to fix the problem that I'm sure we will work out and be great for each other. I have now got my life back, now I'm just working to see what I can do to see if I can get a fresh start with her when I contact her again.
Posted 1 year ago # -
Ldrof11
offlineInactiveWell it's been a few weeks and I'm doing so much better than when this started. I have been improving myself and getting back to what I forgot about during my relationship. I know the mistakes that were made, and I'm still hoping I get the chance to fix them. I am looking for the best way to start reconnecting with and ex and start building positive rapport again. She has contacted me a few time randomly, and the last one I responded to by saying that I still wasn't wanting to talk and I hope she is doing well, but I'm not ready to talk again. I did that because she kept messaging me and it was getting pretty frequent. She told me if I want to talk that I can just hit her up, so that's a good sign since she didn't even want to talk almost a month ago. So now I'm just finishing the no contact out and then figuring out a way to start reconnecting with her again in the hopes of a fresh start. Overall it's been a pretty successful no contact period and I wish I would've done it so much sooner.
Posted 1 year ago # -
Ldrof11 said:
She has contacted me a few time randomly, and the last one I responded to by saying that I still wasn't wanting to talk and I hope she is doing well, but I'm not ready to talk again. I did that because she kept messaging me and it was getting pretty frequent.The free breakup survival plan covers what you are supposed to do in this kind of situation.
Obviously you didn't read it, or just don't care to follow the plan... I would bet it's both.
Plus, you could have posted in our forum, asking for advice before responding like an idiot.
Why do I call you an idiot?
What other kind of person asks for help, and, then ignores it?
I provide free help, and guidance, at my own expense.
This is a great example of how you can lead a horse to FREE water, but, you can't make them drink.
This is one of the reasons I feel like closing this free water hole.
It seems people are just too fucking ignorant to follow a simple plan.
Keep fucking up, and...
Thanks for wasting my time and money!
"If we will be quiet and ready enough, we shall find compensation in every disappointment." ~ Henry David Thoreau ~
"If you don't think finding true love is worth risking a broken heart, then, you don't deserve it."
FREE Step-by-Step BREAKUP SURVIVAL PLAN
Click Here to LEARN "ADVANCED RELATIONAL SKILLS" TO GET YOUR EX BACKPosted 1 year ago #
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