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Keira - My No Contact Diary
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Kick-Loves-Ass
Posted 4 months ago -
Keira
offlineMemberHi,
I agree with you about the decision to break up, I really believe it was the best thing for both of us. I have some big decisions to make and I need some time to think them over. I would really appreciate it if you didn’t contact me during this time. I will be in touch when I am ready.Posted 4 months ago # -
Keira
offlineMemberI sent that today at 18.00 pm and he replied right away this:
_______________________You make me smile
on a crazy day...thanks (my name)Longer replies later....
(his name)
________________________
Now it seems he is happy I accept the break up?? I feel confused. I am afraid he will move on for good... but well I trust Scott and the process.
Posted 4 months ago # -
Kick-Loves-Ass
If you really want to know how he feels, and you really want him to know how you feel - talk to his heart.Posted 4 months ago -
First of all great job Keira!
Keira said:
Now it seems he is happy I accept the break up?? I feel confused. I am afraid he will move on for good...He's full-of-shit, you kicked my right in the nads.
He wasn't expecting you to agree with the breakup, and it took him by surprise.
So what does he do?
He pretends it doesn't affect him at all... I've seen this many, many times.
There's nothing to worry about, and if he keeps trying to contact you... send him the same exact message, over and over again, until he "really" gets the message.
Go read the other NC diaries, and reach out to the members you feel would make a good break up buddy.
You're not alone, anymore.
Keep up the good work, and...
Stay Strong and Positive!
"If we will be quiet and ready enough, we shall find compensation in every disappointment." ~ Henry David Thoreau ~
"If you don't think finding true love is worth risking a broken heart, then, you don't deserve it."
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FaithfulInLove
offlineInactiveHe sais "Longer replies later"? Does that mean he wants to get back to you later? Isn't that disrespecting the space that you've been asking for in your message? Just thinking... maybe that can help you staying out of contact. The will of showing him you won't reply no matter what he sais... not giving him the control he is used to have over you.
I know it's hard!! Stay strong!Posted 4 months ago # -
Keira
offlineMembere hasn't written anything more than that, but already sent me his "selfie" on the instant message app. But I ignored.
I will always remember those previous weeks when I beg, plead, text, call, just to be ignored and hurt a billion times. Now it's my turn to care for myself.
I know it will be hard because I always feel so tempted to reply. But 30 days is nothing comparing to the big scheme of thing.
I will go read your story now, faithfullinlove, and thank you so much for your support. I will update tomorrow.
Posted 4 months ago # -
Kick-Loves-Ass
If you miss her "real bad", and you want to get your ex-girlfriend back, you need to take a look at this.Posted 4 months ago -
Keira
offlineMemberDay 1 after NC
So tempt to reach out. He sent a selfie of him in a track field. I didn't respond, but get out of bed to class, and write thesis which is due this saturday.I must be patient of the process. I must be strong.
Posted 4 months ago # -
FaithfulInLove
offlineInactiveI know this too well from the past months! Getting selfies from him, not knowing how to respond! Good that we don't have to think about this anymore as we just won't respond at all, right? "Our men" will be wondering what has happened to us and will be puzzled seeing us one day coming back, being so much stronger!
Posted 4 months ago # -
Kick-Loves-Ass
If you miss him "real bad", and you want to get your ex-boyfriend back, you need to take a look at this.Posted 4 months ago -
Keira said:
Day 3 he sent email says happy Easter and said he miss me a lot.Great job not replying Keira!
Keira said:
But you left me on the first place.That's right! Actions speak louder than words.
Keira said:
I write text to my friends instead.Great idea!
Keep up the good work, and...
Stay Strong and Positive!
"If we will be quiet and ready enough, we shall find compensation in every disappointment." ~ Henry David Thoreau ~
"If you don't think finding true love is worth risking a broken heart, then, you don't deserve it."
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Kick-Loves-Ass
Posted 4 months ago -
Keira
offlineMemberDay 4
Today is very stressful day. I am crying as I write this. Tomorrow my 20,000 words Master dissertation is due and I am writing it. Today I broke NC because he sent me an email of Easter and I was in a very weak feeling with stress. But I feel guilty for itBecause when I broke NC, I start to feel very broke inside. When he said he miss me and use the nickname he used to call me, I was vulnerable and said those words back and pathetic to ask him if we have a chance (I know Scott will kill me, if you do, please be soft because I can't take harshness now, I am really breaking down with this thesis and my thoughts.)
He said
"I miss you. ASking for the chance is admirable, but i feel I should tell you to move on... but I know you will not."I am very confused and I know it is my fault.
So i resent the NC message and crying like a big baby.
Part of me want to beg, but Keira, you have gone down that road before and it doesn't help.
He is now going back with his ex. I assume so. I felt like a fool.As hard as it is, maybe you need that D. Maybe you need to not have me in your life, to really taste the medicine that you choose...a total absence of me.
I will not let you have control over me like this again.
Posted 4 months ago # -
FaithfulInLove
offlineInactiveOh Keira, I'm so sorry to read this!
Sending so much strength your way!
I think now it's even more important to really stay NC and try your best to move on so that he sees you do!!!
Prove him wrong!! He'll be puzzled!I hate seeing how he's not talking your mental health seriously, how he seems to be playing games! Sending those selfies, now saying you can't move on!
Stay strong, I'm here for you!Posted 4 months ago # -
Keira said:
When he said he miss me and use the nickname he used to call me, I was vulnerable and said those words back and pathetic to ask him if we have a chanceThat was the whole reason he tempted you with those words (lies), he wanted to feel powerful, again.
What is passing for a man, these days, is just pathetic.
No strength, honor, integrity, or courage.
They are BIG pussies. They have to have the last word, like a little child.
You can do A LOT better than this asshole.
Keira said:
He said
"I miss you. ASking for the chance is admirable, but i feel I should tell you to move on... but I know you will not."WTF?
"but i feel I should tell you to move on... but I know you will not"
Yeah right, romeo.
How the fuck can the woman "move on" when an arrogant pussy like yourself, will not let her?
What a fucking tool.
FaithfulInLove said:
So i resent the NC message and crying like a big baby.Great job Keira!
Kick his sorry ass to the curb, where it belongs.
When his ex dumps him, and she will, and he comes crawling back to you, at least you will have the integrity to treat him humanely, and just tell him to go away...period.
You won't find satisfaction in torturing an already tortured soul.
Keira said:
I will not let you have control over me like this again.If you give an asshole enough rope, he will eventually hang himself.
That's what he just did... hung himself.
He thought he would break you, but, he has only made you stronger.
He will be the one to break... mark my words.
Stay Strong and Positive!
"If we will be quiet and ready enough, we shall find compensation in every disappointment." ~ Henry David Thoreau ~
"If you don't think finding true love is worth risking a broken heart, then, you don't deserve it."
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Kick-Loves-Ass
If you're considering reconnecting with your ex, after NC. You should take a look at this system. It never hurts to learn more about relationships, how they work, and how to maintain them.Posted 4 months ago -
Keira
offlineMemberFuck him. Sent me a long text rubbing it in my face that he took his ex to our holiday house in Thailand. The house where I picked by myself, help him with the process of buying, help him communicating with real estate property etc. Rub it in my face
"I took her and kids over there to Easter I hope you dont mind but I do think of you. How are you? I didnt want totell you earlier because I know this week you must be busy with Thesis writing and I dont want you to feel upset. How are you?"
FUCK You. I am not going to reply. DO wahtever you need. Someday I will find someone who see my value and not control me like a bastard you are.
Posted 4 months ago # -
Keira said:
FUCK You. I am not going to reply. DO wahtever you need. Someday I will find someone who see my value and not control me like a bastard you are.I couldn't have said it better, myself.
I wonder if his "ex" knows how much he misses you?
Maybe you should forward her a copy of every email he sends to you.
Forward it, so she sees that it came from his email address.
That should shut him the fuck up.
This asshole takes his wife back, and still tries to keep you, too.
He deserves whatever he gets, which I hope includes a kick in the balls.
Give an asshole enough rope...
Keep up the good work, and...
Stay Strong and Positive!
"If we will be quiet and ready enough, we shall find compensation in every disappointment." ~ Henry David Thoreau ~
"If you don't think finding true love is worth risking a broken heart, then, you don't deserve it."
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Click Here to LEARN "ADVANCED RELATIONAL SKILLS" TO GET YOUR EX BACKPosted 4 months ago # -
Kick-Loves-Ass
Hey, I read about this on one of those relationship sites, the other day. It said something like, if you are ready, and you want your ex-girlfriend or ex-boyfriend to come crawling back to you on their knees (no matter why you broke up and even if they’re dating somebody else now) you need to check this site out. I did, and I thought it was really interesting.Posted 4 months ago -
Keira
offlineMemberI feel really good thank you Scott. At least I get some control over my life back.
I went to a Chinese class today like usual and saw a British friend, he said" You look cute today!"
Just that makes me feel like my vibe must have shown out or something. Which confirms that I am beautiful and I still have "value" in the market of dating.
But I don't need a man right now.
I need myself.
And I will make myself much more shiney that one day you will REGRET what you have lost.Posted 4 months ago # -
Keira
offlineMemberDay 2
Sleeping and relaxing, booking a trip to Taiwan this weekend and my sister and parents will join so we will meet there. It's where he used to plan going with me but I am going to make memory there with my family instead who loves me more than anything.I still feel heavy inside, roller coaster but for sure I didn't reach out for him.
Posted 4 months ago # -
Kick-Loves-Ass
I was lurking in another forum the other night, and this woman was talking about Valentines day, and how her man never does anything "special" for her, anymore. She was seriously doubting if he loved her anymore, and was asking for advice on how to tell if a guy still loves you. This one woman answered her, and told her about this video she watched. It explained the best way to discover if your man still loves you, without him even realizing that you're asking. I checked it out, myself, it's pretty cool.I think this might be the best way to tell if he still loves you.Posted 4 months ago -
Keira
offlineMemberDay 4
At airport now. Feeling strong. Thought I would cry seeing airport because it has so many memories with him, but not even a tear shed. Proud of myself.Last night I got this text
I watched your photos you sent me two weeks ago. You're still cute...and emotional... I am back HK since Wed morning. Easter trip was good but tiring with boys and bit sad without you there....my first time there without you. Many memories. Am.at work tmw. Miss you, really.**the photos I sent while I was in damage control mode weeks ago. You just saw it today?
I am sorry, your bait doesn't work. I know i am cute and strong. I will go make my Taiwan trip great with my family.
Posted 4 months ago # -
Keira said:
Last night I got this textEvery time he contacts you after you asked him not to (with the NC message).
Just send him the same exact NC message (no changes).
He will "get it" after a while.
Plus, I really think you should forward his emails to his ex, he is playing games with her, too.
How serious can he be (about his feelings for her) if he's still contacting you.
You would be doing her a favor.
Keira said:
I am sorry, your bait doesn't work. I know i am cute and strong. I will go make my Taiwan trip great with my family.Great Job Keira!
Keep up the good work, have fun, and...
Stay Strong and Positive!
"If we will be quiet and ready enough, we shall find compensation in every disappointment." ~ Henry David Thoreau ~
"If you don't think finding true love is worth risking a broken heart, then, you don't deserve it."
FREE Step-by-Step BREAKUP SURVIVAL PLAN
Click Here to LEARN "ADVANCED RELATIONAL SKILLS" TO GET YOUR EX BACKPosted 4 months ago # -
Kick-Loves-Ass
Posted 4 months ago -
Keira
offlineMemberNo contact goes well
Back from taiwan had a blast. Now off to Japan for a week and going with a male friend who I haven't met for two years. He invited me there for a trip of detoxing. I am not going to be in rebound or anything but just feel good to be able to enjoy another trip with a good friend!
He sent email asking to be my friend now and ask if we could meet some way down the road and that he misses our hawaii trip etc... so I sent him another NC message. I will wait until I am 100% because he been playing with my emotions for so long. And by then I will later decide if he even deserve to be in my hall of friends fame.
Posted 4 months ago # -
Keira said:
He sent email asking to be my friend now and ask if we could meet some way down the road and that he misses our hawaii trip etc... so I sent him another NC message.Great Job Keira!
Almost perfect... it would have been perfect if you forwarded his email to his wife.
Keira said:
he been playing with my emotions for so longIt seems like he plays with all women's emotions, not just yours.
You should reach out to his wife sometime, she deserves to know what kind of man she is entrusting her heart, and children with.
Save these emails, they may come in handy, some day.
Keep up the good work, and...
Stay Strong and Positive!
"If we will be quiet and ready enough, we shall find compensation in every disappointment." ~ Henry David Thoreau ~
"If you don't think finding true love is worth risking a broken heart, then, you don't deserve it."
FREE Step-by-Step BREAKUP SURVIVAL PLAN
Click Here to LEARN "ADVANCED RELATIONAL SKILLS" TO GET YOUR EX BACKPosted 4 months ago # -
Kick-Loves-Ass
I read on some of the no contact diaries that they found working on their relationship skills, really helped them progress during their personal evolution. A lot of them recommended the ex solution program, it goes over a lot of important factors that can help you understand what went wrong, so you can avoid repeating those mistakes, in the future. I am so glad, I got it. The section on Advanced Relationship Skills helped me the most. I learned about things I never even thought about before.Posted 1 month ago
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