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I HATE SPAM! Read Our Privacy PolicyPosted 1 year ago PinkChinchilla
offlineMemberI dunno, because there was still tension with her it might be worthwhile waiting. See if she contacts you, give it 2 weeks maybe and say something like you are going to be in such an such an area on whatever day and wondered if she wanted to meet again?
I dunno.
Good luck with everything though. I'm so glad you're getting your life on track!
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cherrygirl
offlineInactivei would not contact her at all. from what i read from you i think you should really take it slowly. i think you felt tension from her because she did not know what to expect from you, maybe she was scared you will start pushing again. so definitely i would not call her, would not text her, give it a month or so, so that she sees there is no agenda from your side. and i think you also need this time for you. oh and respect for deleting yourself from facebook!
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Jonathan
offlineMemberHi!
I havn't been on here for a while.
This will be a short one with a question:
Things are going just great.
I havn't spoken to my ex at all for at least 6 months.
I actually feel in the mood to speak to her again.
I had planned to call her, but she seems to have changed her number.
My question is if there are anyone else who had been in the same situation? (I tried the search-function but I didn't find anything...)
I am sceptic about reconnect via email or something like that. Or would it be a good idea?
Any ideas about this?
And for everyone struggling struggling with pain; stick to NC! I really think this is the best way to get over it.
It is remarcable how much i've changed since I first joined this site!
I am very glad about all of this.
That's for now.
Bye
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Posted 5 months ago Jonathan said:
I had planned to call her, but she seems to have changed her number.This may be a sign from the universe, it is just not time yet.
Just keep living your life, and wait to see what happens in the future.
Stay Strong and Positive!
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offlineMemberHi. I thought that I would just give some updates.
My resent post was posted nearly a month ago. When I wrote it, I felt like ready to maybe reconnect with my ex.
I realized that she probably has changed phone number, and I haven't got the new one haha.
I then asked here on for some thoughts on how to reconnect in that situation (I still don't fb and such things).
Scott told me that maybe the time wasn't right yet. Haha, and I belive that is so right.Since my last post I havn't thought about it that much, nor have I in any other way tried to reconnect with my ex.
And nor do I feel that I am in a hurry or something like that either.
I just feel that, maybe the time isn't right yet. And maybe it will never be haha. I don't know.I have been a member here for a year now, and I belive that since I beacame a member here, there has been a big change and a big difference in my mindset!
Scott wrote somewhere that time will heal the wounds, if you just stop picking on them. I belive that is so right haha
NC is really a big deal I believe.I have to confess that yes I do miss her sometimes then and then. I belive that is human.
But it is starting be become a miss like most people have for a lot of old frineds or something like that.
I am not freaking out anymore. And I don't feel like I need somebody in my life in that sence to become happy.So maybe I will try to reconnect with her someday, maybe not. haha
Enough of talking about my ex.
The underlying message to every new person in here is; stick to the plan! It really gets better!!
I have screwed up a bit. But you just have to get back on track. It will be easier the more far you get.
I either havn't posted that much in here. But that doesn't matter that much. I have read other's NC diaries and success-stories etc.
and you get go far with that only!I am quite a academic person (I study academic philosophy at the university where I live).
I don't really know if I am a believer of LOA. (haven't read that much about it).
But I do think that there are some thruth in the writings of famous existential philosopher Jean-Paul Sartre.
Some plot of his thoughts comes to the conclusion that we as human beings are, in some sense, allways radically free. We are even condemned to be free.
That means, we have to choose (to not choose is also to choose).
One of his famous example is that of a man under gun threath. This man is still, in some sense, free. At least to choose how he will tackle this situation or which mindset he faces it with
(he is even responsible for his own mindset, even in a situation like this).This means, that if he dies, he can still die happy, because he chooses to.
Sartres philosophy is quite controversial, but it makes (at least to me) in relation to much of what Scott is talking about here on. (although maybe he will not agree with me, haha. Sorry then)
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Jonathan said:
I have been a member here for a year now, and I belive that since I beacame a member here, there has been a big change and a big difference in my mindset!Great Job Jonathan!
Keep up the good work!
Jonathan said:
I don't really know if I am a believer of LOA. (haven't read that much about it).But I do think that there are some thruth in the writings of famous existential philosopher Jean-Paul Sartre.
Some plot of his thoughts comes to the conclusion that we as human beings are, in some sense, allways radically free. We are even condemned to be free.
That means, we have to choose (to not choose is also to choose).
One of his famous example is that of a man under gun threath. This man is still, in some sense, free. At least to choose how he will tackle this situation or which mindset he faces it with
(he is even responsible for his own mindset, even in a situation like this).This means, that if he dies, he can still die happy, because he chooses to.
Sartres philosophy is quite controversial, but it makes (at least to me) in relation to much of what Scott is talking about here on. (although maybe he will not agree with me, haha. Sorry then)
The LOA is quite simple, and often misunderstood because there are so many books about it, by so many different authors.
You attract what you think about, feel, and focus on.
Your life revolves around your attitude.
How many negative people have you seen succeed, or happy?
Even if they hit the lottery they lose it all, and end up right where they believe they belong, broke and unhappy, why?
Because they truly believe that's all they deserve.
Because they feel cursed, they are angry with the world and jealous of all the "lucky" people.
And these feelings bring them (attract) more of the same bad things...jealousy, hatred...etc.
The people who succeed are not lucky, they simply made a choice.
These people chose to be happy and believed they deserved to be successful, and therefore we were successful no matter what challenge came their way.
This is the power of positive thinking and the LOA.
It is no more magical than life itself, or our bodies.
Science thinks it has figured everything out, and that is the first sign that they are ignorant.
No one knows everything, so that leaves a lot to be discovered, right?
When you think you know everything, you stop looking, listening, and believing...now the LOA works against you.
Because you believe there is nothing more, there will be nothing more for you until you change the way you think, feel, and believe.
This is how we create "our own reality", not someone else's.
But, when you show people the power of the LOA and positive thinking you alter their way of perceiving the world, and the unlimited power they have to change their own reality.
So in a way you can "indirectly" change other people's lives with the LOA and positive thinking.
The man with the gun to his head knows he will die one day, but he also knows how he feels when he dies is a choice...his choice.
The way we live and die is a choice.
Everything we do is a choice, we are not victims unless we choose to be victims.
Do you know what I believe it takes to die happy/content?
Knowing that you have done your best to stand up for what you felt was right, not just side with the majority, you didn't bend to peer pressure just to "safely" fit in.
How do I feel about death?
I would rather die on my feet fighting for my life, then on my knees begging for mercy.
I guess that makes me controversial too.
Here's to being controversial, and kicking life's ass!
Stay Strong and Positive!
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