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Need some help from the guys out here. How does a girl know if the interest a man is showing you is genuine or because he is needy? My ex used to love talking to me initially, wanted to talk almost everyday for hours and hours and then he pulled away, which is why it was difficult for me to process what went wrong suddenly and I ended up acting confused and needy by this change.
Now there is this new guy who is showing interest in me. I went on a date with him and he was also like ex telling me how strong he thinks I am and all those real admiration kind of things. He wanted to have lunch right the next day itself, which I felt was moving too fast and I declined. He now wants to meet over the weekend, I havent committed (you see I do have other plans these days ) . But I am confused whether this is just interest or is it going to be a repeat of ex's needy behaviour and I am so done with that.
I know men like to chase, but how do you differentiate between those who only want to chase, those who chase coz they are needy and those who chase coz they are genuinely interested. Any insights men?
Hmm, well. It's hard to say with the little details that you've given. But, I will say this. A man who is NOT needy, would wait a bit before saying "let's go out tomorrow" right after your first day. That's a big sign, but that's just me.
Of course, there are men who are unafraid to show their interest, but just how much is too much? What's his story? Did he just go through a breakup? How old is he? Does he seem to have a life of his own?
Take it easy and find out for yourself. Don't rush it but also listen to your guy feelings. Women have an incredible sense of these things and you should already start to pick up on certain vibes he's giving off.
Also, how often do the two of you talk aside from your dates and how long do those conversations last? Including online chat and texting. All these things will give us a little more insight into the story.
Be cool and be happy!
I meant first "date" not day. And "gut" feelings, not guy...
How does a girl know if the interest a man is showing you is genuine or because he is needy?
"Hey, are you a needy little Momma's boy, or did your balls finally drop?"
If he gets pissed...he's a Momma's boy, if he laughs...he's not.
If he tries to grab your ass, he's drunk.
If he grabs his own ass, he is "really" drunk.
I hope I don't get kicked out of the he-man woman-haters club for divulging this.
Lol Scott thanks for the laugh. To answer Wringo's question, we have just met not gone to the point of exchanging emails. First date was around 3 hours or so and the only thing we might connect is that we are the same caste/community so lots of commonalities on that count. As to the gut feeling, you know what the time I was with himn it felt like an ex repeat at times, I felt it was too fast asking forlunch again and when I cancelled saying I had been immediately called to work the reply wasnt ok cool it was hey y u working on an off and after a while he asked me about weekend plans so I didn't reply immediately so he repeated a couple of days later. Also he is younger, the same age as ex too, sigh, wish I looked less like a kid coz it seems all the kids think m their age lol. Yeah will go with my gut. Don't even know his story Wringo, with ex I knew his story very early, this boy I don't see any story as sob story as such coming. Anyways thanks the two of you. M steering clear of guys who tell me they admire how strong I am, that surely is an I-am-looking-for-a-sugar-momma alert
Hi KC, lots of genuine men like strong women and lots of nice men like to give women compliments.Enjoy them!! I just think actions speak volumes, so I don't put much store in what people say. So look at what people actually do to assess whether they are needy or not! This has worked for me in the past.
However I have been on a date today with a guy and I won't be seeing him again as he tried to do like my ex and put the blame on me for the fact that he was late, rearranged the meeting time half an hour before we were due to meet and then wondered why I wasn't sitting there like a lemon with my face all pissy!! So if you get a warning alert...look somewhere else maybe. There is no man/woman desert out there guys!! People..don't you just luuurve 'em!!?
Don't ask me, I am obviously no expert in that area!
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