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Kick-Loves-Ass
Posted 7 years ago -
greens
offlineMemberThe calls definitely messes with your mind, its like she's stirring the cauldron.
Really thanks for all the support. If it wasn't for this forum and the people here, I wouldn't have a clue of what to do, and would not have even known how to take these baby steps. I would've been at her doorstep instead.
Posted 7 years ago # -
Kick-Loves-Ass
If you really want to know how he feels, and you really want him to know how you feel - talk to his heart.Posted 7 years ago -
greens
offlineMemberI got over 100 missed calls today, and a dozen voicemails. The common theme in the voicemails was either, to pick up the phone or for me to call her back. Nothing along the lines of I'm sorry, or I'll break up with him etc...
I haven't broken, and I hope I can hold out.
I can't help but second guess if I am overdoing it since I miss her so so much.
I know all the stuff I read in the past month about NC, and trying not to forget it
This is like trying to pass an exam in NC.
I know what I'm supposed to do, but these calls cause real PAIN, she is turning UP the heat on the cauldron.Posted 7 years ago # -
Lolalala
offlineMemberGood for you Green! Keep being strong.
Just remember, even if you picked up the phone and talked to her nothing has changed. Would it be worth it to break NC and your plan? No way. You will just have to start at the beginning again and you arent going to get anywhere with her right now. Shes still exhibiting the behavior of her thinking shes in control and can have/talk to you when she demands it. So no, you arent overdoing it! good job!
Posted 7 years ago # -
jaysun
offlineMemberWe're in the same boat for whay its worth. Unless there is a message saying that she has thought long and hard and left the guy and is ready to be with only you because she loves you, there's no sense in answering. Besides..even if she did leave him..there hasnt been enough time past yet for either one of u to evolve. If my ex called me today and said those things i would want to wait at least 30 days after she left him to make sure that she had enough time to get past that relationship. Thats why i dont plan on ever being back with her. Too much drama to waste your life waiting on anyone. Your doing fine just the way u are.
Alive and Kicking ...NonpointPosted 7 years ago # -
Kick-Loves-Ass
If you miss her "real bad", and you want to get your ex-girlfriend back, you need to take a look at this.Posted 7 years ago -
greens said:
I can't help but second guess if I am overdoing it since I miss her so so much.These kind of thoughts are the quickest way to get banned.
greens said:
I got over 100 missed calls today, and a dozen voicemails.She sounds like a psychotic bitch to me...control freak.
This break up was a blessing in disguise.
Don't let her drive you crazy like she has done to herself.
The only place she should be calling is the psycho bitch hotline.
Stay Strong!
PS - This is a sign that she is starting to evolve, or devolve, but things are changing and that is what needs to happen.
"If we will be quiet and ready enough, we shall find compensation in every disappointment." ~ Henry David Thoreau ~
"If you don't think finding true love is worth risking a broken heart, then, you don't deserve it."
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happybunny
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This sort of behavior is crazy with a capital C. Block her phone number or get one of those aps that will do it for you if you have a smartphone. The sooner you do this and shut it all down, the sooner you can get on with your life.You need to protect yourself, and just suffering through it looking at your phone is not only silly, but unproductive. Throw out your SIM card and move on.
We tend to seek happiness when happiness is actually a choice.Posted 7 years ago # -
greens
offlineMemberIt has been a very dramatic day, I've had some time to calm myself.
After some thought, I realize her calls were selfish and self serving.
They were not meant to reconcile our differences. Yup, nothing has changed.Thank you, after reading your messages, Scott, Jaysun and Lolalala, I won't giving into her.
I really needed that confirmation despite craming NC articles every night.And exactly like you said, short of an unlikely scenario where she sends a message saying she's single, and some time has passed, I won't be taking any calls. She's fucked up her own life, I can't let her fuck up mine too.
I am 100% glad I didn't take any calls. It has made my night tolerable.
Posted 7 years ago # -
Kick-Loves-Ass
If you miss him "real bad", and you want to get your ex-boyfriend back, you need to take a look at this.Posted 7 years ago -
greens
offlineMemberHappybunny, I have a cheap phone...unable to upgrade due to the timing of the my contract.
I was able to download a Silent Ringtone and apply it to her ID, but still it is disruptive.I thought about turning off my phone too, but I figured I don't want to show her any emotion.
Why do I have to turn off my phone on account of her.Her apartment is only a few blocks from my work too, that was because I helped her move there when we were together. I'm sure she would've shown up at my work too, if not for she was at the new guy's home who lives far away. All this makes things especially difficult.
I'm hanging in there though.
Its great to be dumped and when I'm trying to swim away for my life, she tries to reel me in again.Posted 7 years ago # -
happybunny
offlineInactiveYou can, however, tell the phone company to block her number. Turning off your phone is not emotional, in that case it will go straight to voicemail when she calls.
Anyway, why in the world do you care what she thinks as long as you aren't responding to her? From your NC diary, every time she calls or tries to get ahold of you, it sends you into
When she doesn't try to get ahold of you, you wonder when the other shoe is going to drop and she's going to start the crazies again. This cycle is hurting you.Hang in there, I realize this situation is rough.
We tend to seek happiness when happiness is actually a choice.Posted 7 years ago # -
greens said:
I thought about turning off my phone too, but I figured I don't want to show her any emotion.
Why do I have to turn off my phone on account of her.Turning off your phone would be a wise move, and it isn't showing her anything except you won't take any more shit from her.
I would have done it long ago if I was you.
She can't yank your chain if it isn't connected to you any more.
If someone was trying to kick your ass, you would fight back, right?
This is no different.
Don't just sit there and let her kick your ass, and then come into the forum and complain about how much it hurts...fight back!
Kick Love's Ass!
"If we will be quiet and ready enough, we shall find compensation in every disappointment." ~ Henry David Thoreau ~
"If you don't think finding true love is worth risking a broken heart, then, you don't deserve it."
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Kick-Loves-Ass
Posted 7 years ago -
jaysun
offlineMemberi dont know where the people that keep saying pull your sim card to get rid of your contacts come from but where i come from your sim card runs the phone, you cant make any calls without the sim card in, go to walmart,,best buy,,even a pawn shop ,,, ,ect and buy yourself a cheap smart phone,, for a couple hundred dollars u can by a smart phone , craigs list,,ebay,,,hell,,u could buy a refurbished one,,,then u can get the apps so u dont have to turn your phone off and wont be bothered,,, my ex called me for a month straight before she got the message, before nc she used to text me two hundred fifty times a day, if u dont think my head was spinning from all that your wrong but i said fuck this,,,im going around in circles ,,,i just ignored her,,,it bothered me,, and i thought about answering her a few times at the beggining but thats all i did,think about it, ,, no fucking way in hell im going back to that shit,, she will have to come to me single for a year holding a silver platter under her ass, (the fire inside has died and gone but the riot inside moves on)
Alive and Kicking ...NonpointPosted 7 years ago # -
Kick-Loves-Ass
If you're considering reconnecting with your ex, after NC. You should take a look at this system. It never hurts to learn more about relationships, how they work, and how to maintain them.Posted 7 years ago -
greens
offlineMemberHad a great time at dinner with family tonight. The old me is returning.
That is kind of stuff I used to do before I met the b*tch.
It has been that long since I did spur of the moment dinners like this???
God this is a blessing that I'm FRWEEE.I will continue to enjoy my life every week, weekend.
I've already got a date with a girl later next week too.
Date with 2 girls last time was good, but thing is they tend to talk to each other.
This time she'll be alone.. wink wink
EDIT:
On my way back from dinner, got pulled over by a police officer.
Doing 68 in a 50 mph zone...but, he gave me a warning on using my turn signals, and staying off the left lane. Even my LUCK is returning!!!
Sorry if this is less related to Kicking Loves Ass, but I seriously think when you get away from toxic people, your fortunes and outlook on life changes for the better.Posted 7 years ago # -
Kick-Loves-Ass
Hey, I read about this on one of those relationship sites, the other day. It said something like, if you are ready, and you want your ex-girlfriend or ex-boyfriend to come crawling back to you on their knees (no matter why you broke up and even if they’re dating somebody else now) you need to check this site out. I did, and I thought it was really interesting.Posted 7 years ago -
greens
offlineMemberI have an issue where the ex is calling my cell, I have turned it off..easy enough.
She came to the security desk again today, and I did not answer the page to my office phone...done.The problem is I am not sure what to do in the event she waits for me in the lobby.
I was actually fearful after work today, and walked out and chit chatted with an old coworker who had no idea I used him for this purpose. I have feelings for her and my emotions are way out of wack and I am not ready for any face to face contact with her. Unfortunately there is no alternate entrance / exit for me.If it happened today I was going to say "I am not ready to talk" and walk away as fast as I could.
Will that do?Posted 7 years ago # -
jaysun
offlineMemberNo ! DON'T show her that you are uncomfortable with her in anyway! Keep your head up and ignore her. If she approaches brush her off politely. Don't show any emotion. be brief and to the point. Tell her you are in a hurry and are late for an appointment. If it helps..the next time you see her..think of all the pain she put you through without a hint of remorse. She needs to know that you are done putting up with her shit and dont have time for it. Later on..when u feel strong enough to reconnect..you try what MOMU says to do. Until then..NO FLEEING!
Alive and Kicking ...NonpointPosted 7 years ago # -
Kick-Loves-Ass
I was lurking in another forum the other night, and this woman was talking about Valentines day, and how her man never does anything "special" for her, anymore. She was seriously doubting if he loved her anymore, and was asking for advice on how to tell if a guy still loves you. This one woman answered her, and told her about this video she watched. It explained the best way to discover if your man still loves you, without him even realizing that you're asking. I checked it out, myself, it's pretty cool.I think this might be the best way to tell if he still loves you.Posted 7 years ago -
greens
offlineMemberThat's the plan. I'm sure she can't control her feelings and getting desperate with the holidays.
I know it a trap, because the moment I open up, Bam its back to square one for me.
Just preparing myself because this shit probably going to happen before Thursday.
"lemme see my ex to make sure he's on the leash before spending the thanksgiving with my new beau's family"Thanks Jay, I'll appear calm without showing any turmoil and just walk away.
Posted 7 years ago # -
greens
offlineMemberThere were no more interruptions to my NC past few days so I'm good.
My phone is now off too just in case, and it helps my mind to be clear.I read a lot of posts and it really helps to recognize any traps.
Few days ago, ex left a text asking if I had time for coffee, with no responses from me, she left 2 voicemails saying she wanted to talk. Talk about what? Just to get some satisfaction out of breaking my NC. No way I'm falling for that crap.Posted 7 years ago # -
Kick-Loves-Ass
Posted 7 years ago -
onequestion
offlineMemberGood Job, I have not heard back since the NC. but I had not contacted her for 3 weeks before that. I dont know if it easier if they keep contacting or not. I a 180 degree change for me so Im sure she does not know what to do. Yours is scambling, hopefully you can get some quiet from her and not be distracted.
Posted 7 years ago # -
Kick-Loves-Ass
I read on some of the no contact diaries that they found working on their relationship skills, really helped them progress during their personal evolution. A lot of them recommended the ex solution program, it goes over a lot of important factors that can help you understand what went wrong, so you can avoid repeating those mistakes, in the future. I am so glad, I got it. The section on Advanced Relationship Skills helped me the most. I learned about things I never even thought about before.Posted 7 years ago -
greens
offlineMemberDec 17 2010 Friday.
Hello, it has been awhile since I've wrote in my NC diary.
I've been away, but wanted to let everyone know I'm still alive and managing.
No one has ever actually died of heartbreak, so as long as we stay alive we will be Triumphant.
Be Strong. Stay Strong.Posted 7 years ago # -
greens
offlineMemberWent out on a date with a girl I've liked and known for 2 years now. She doesn't like me in that way, we are good friends. Although it changed from a dinner to a lunch date, she initiated it, and wanted to see me before Christmas. We walked all over the city in windy 30 degree weather. In the middle of part 2 of lunch, a gourmet chocolate place, my ex called twice. I didn't pick up the phone. I even told my date it was my ex. Just being with another girl made way easy not to pick up. As we were walking back to my car, another girl, who I tried to date years ago but who didn't accept saw me acting goofy with my date.
I have to owe it to my date, I like her, even though she doesn't like me the same way, she has boosted my confidence, and made my holidays merry.
To my ex, I'm not someone who she can leave and come back.
for me.
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