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offlineMemberI was the one who broke up and moved out but I feel like I was pushed out. I was in a lesbian relationship for 18 months with this person we’ll call her R. Things started out great we moved fairly quickly (against my better judgement). In no time I was intertwined emotionally and financially with this person and her family. I have no family in the state I live in, she has a huge family and they took me in and made me feel like a real part of it. We lived on a farm and I loved it!
About 15 months into the relationship she seemed to shutdown on me emotionally. When I asked her about it she would say nothing was wrong. She was not a very good communicator to begin with and it just got worse. As did our relationship, I did what every person in love would do and that was try harder to give her what she needed. To the point of throwing my whole self in and the more needy and desperate I became.
Thanksgiving weekend was the breakup. We had a really great weekend with her family, couldn’t have asked for a better holiday. Then everything went down hill when she handed me her ipad to play with to see if I liked it, she would get me one for christmas. SSooo I did what any needy desperate person would to in a troubled relationship and opened her facebook, and there they were. Messages that were very inappropriate from SEVERAL girls. When I confronted her about them she said she was sorry and made a mistake, that she was just frustrated on how our relationship was going and she didn’t mean it and I was the love of her life.
I had to leave her parents house and drive home that afternoon because I had to be at work that day. I told her we would talk at home as I didn’t want to upset any of the family. When I got home I was a wreck. As I was changing for work I spot her work phone on the nightstand. Well you know what happens next. I go through the texts because the trust is gone. Low and behold, several texts to an ex not sure who.
Her Ex: Nice pic but I don’t like the ring
R: lol, I don’t wear a ring anymore
R: Ya we havent been in a relationship in while, no tears here
R: I suck at relationships, I just need to stay single
I can go on but I wont lets just say there were a lot of hurtful things said. At this point I lost it, I took a pic of those text messages and sent them to her and told her we were done.
Her first reaction was anger, she was very angry that she got caught. She said those text messages had nothing to do with me and that she was just venting because she was frustrated on how our relationship was going. How does it not have anything to do with me???????
She was due to arrive back at the house that night. I told her I wouldn’t be home after work and stayed at a friends house. When I went home the next day I asked her to come home so we could talk and just lay everything on the table. She said no, she wasent going to come home and for me to “Do whatever you gotta do”. I was crushed, so I started packing. I was completely out within 3 days.
When we had our last conversation she wanted me to keep the cell phone she was paying for because I was on her plan and under contract. She also wanted me to keep one of the dogs but she wanted to be able to visit him. I said no to both of these requests because I wanted to sever all ties. This is the point where it started to get uglier. She wanted me in her life and wanted to remain friends ha! Well f that! So when it started to settle in that I was going to completely sever ties she turned very vindictive. I know financially she is hurting, I paid 75% of the bills so I wasn’t surprised that after I broke it off she was texting me for money.
She started to post pictures and a new girl on facebook. We were suppose to play in a tournament in Vegas the week we broke up, she ended up taking this girl with her and actually had the nerve to ask if she could put the hotel room on my credit card. I didn’t know she took her at the time as I had already blocked her from my facebook. My friends knew but didn’t want to tell me because I was pretty devestated. I found out a couple weeks later. She also posted pics of this girl with her at an nfl game that I bought the tickets for, I left her the tickets because I wanted her to take her nephew who loved that team.
She always had ex’s sniffing around her and I could never figure out why all these chicks were following her around. Well now I see that my decision not to be in the friend zone was a good one. She would call them “stalkers” I know now what kind of a person she is. I didn’t see this side of her when we were together. Well she is not going to make a stalker out of me I also don’t think shes been broken up with before. Shes always been the one to do the breaking up.
So I start my evolution.
Posted 4 months ago #-
Make a hole, we have another corpse on our hands! 
Now Finding_Myself_Again's "old" dead relationship needs a proper burial, and a headstone of course!
OK get a shovel and bury the past (baggage), from here on in it's a new day.
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R.I.P.
Here Lies
Finding_Myself_Again's Old Relationship
18 Months
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