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I HATE SPAM! Read Our Privacy PolicyPosted 4 months ago Earth Angel
offlineMemberI e-mailed the following to xxx last night.
Title...You Were Right
Hi xxx
I agree with you about the decision to break up. I really believe it was the best thing for both of us. I have some big decisions to make and I need some time to think them over. I would really appreciate it if you didn't contact me during this time, unless it is work-related. I will be in touch when I am ready.
Sincerely,
So far, no response....
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willsucceed
offlineMemberEarth Angel, welcome to the forum. It will be an emotional roller coaster, but the strategies you learn here will help you progress faster and once you've reached the other side, you will have improved and gotten your life back (a new and improved life). We understand the pain and anguish, but what you're doing is right and it's right for you.
Is he deliberately messing with my head for his own ego, or is he really torn?He wants his cake and eat it too. He wants to keep you as a back-up plan and to help him feel secure so he can pursue this other relationship. It's easier for him to pursue the new relationship when he knows you still love him and he has that as an emotional cushion. He gets the fun of a new pursuit with her with the security of a familiar relationship with you. He gets the best of both worlds.
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daphne_555
offlineInactiveDon't worry about the response now. Work on your evolution and get yourself back. This guy is clearly ambivalent. Your absence will shake him up, whether you realize it or not.
Like will said, he wants his cake and ice cream. Please stay in nc and if you can, read Love Must Be Tough. It opened my eyes.
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Posted 4 months ago Earth Angel said:
Sincerely,FYI - You are better off just signing your name and leaving out the "sincerely" part.
Other than that, good job on starting your personal evolution!
Stay Strong and Positive!
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FREE Step-by-Step BREAK UP SURVIVAL PLANPosted 4 months ago #-
goodlucksuccess
offlineMemberHey Earth Angel..
Welcome to the Forum..And Now..Just focus on yourself,your evolution,Your betterment,your life,Your happiness..Whatever you do,It should all be just about YOU..and you should be the prime focus of all your actions.All the best for a new journey..
Take Care!
Stay Strong and Positive..
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misty
offlineMemberHello Earth Angel... welcome to the forum. I read your break up story and am sorry to hear what happened. You can read mine and though I would not compare it to yours since mine was only a 6 month story with no kids involved, the pattern is very same.
The ones that say they love us, run to us when we want to move on, but treat us like crap when we are emotioally invested and take them back ARE THE WORST KIND.
This type is taking advantage of you in the worst way, because they know you love and care of them. I'm not an expert but, wouldn't hesitate from calling this some kind of emotional abuse.
You question whether he is truly torn etc......... WHO THE HELL CARES. Just ask yourself one question? Would you ever be able to truly love a man, care for him and at the same time want to hurt him, make him cry and have fun with some other lover in parallel ?
What kind or person does this?
This is not easy, and unless you get rid of him completely and strictly follow the NC and get clarity on how badly you've been treated, you will never be out of this mess.
Stay strong. The first few days are the hardest. Just be conscience that it will get easier and your life will be happier without someone telling you he loves you one day and humiliating you the next.
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Posted 4 months ago sweetcalendula
offlineMemberhey EA !
stay strong in NC, just focus on yourself right now. don't worry if he responded to you or not, it doesn't really matter. what matters most is to ponder upon what can you do to get your life back and to improve for the better. it will be an emotional ride, but trust me, it is worth it.
stay positive !
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Welcome to the forum...
Trust me when I say, it is better if he didn't respond to your NC message at the time being. Get your life back first and you will see all the good things coming to you bit by bit. Plan something for yourself, anything....as long as you can divert your attention from thinking about him and focus on yourself instead.
*hugs*
God grant me the serenity to accept things that I cannot change....
The first step toward change is acceptance.
Change is not something you do, it's something you allow.
Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you.Posted 4 months ago #
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