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I HATE SPAM! Read Our Privacy PolicyPosted 1 month ago Tirofbs
offlineMemberI sent him my no Contact Letter:
Hi,
I agree with you about the decision to break up, I really believe it was the best thing for both of us. I have some big decisions to make and I need some time to think them over. I would really appreciate it if you didn’t contact me during this time. I will be in touch when I am ready.
To which he replied almost inmediately
So you breaking up with me? Like always, running away from the problem......
I didn't reply.
I do not feel as bad as I thought I would. I actually feel like a big weight has been lifted off my shoulders.
I wonder if the break up has not hit home yet 
I hope I stay this cool headed about the whole thing. Maybe I am in denial. I was going to marry this guy, why don't I feel bad? I purchased the book and started reading it. The book really help me see things in another perspective. I went into all of my accounts and deleted each and everyone of them including FB. Next thing to go was his pictures music and email accounts. I also changed my number just in case he felt like calling, and throw me off balance. I have been thinking about getting a membership at my local gym and try working out my frustration. Great place to meet new people, wish me luck. 
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Tirofbs said:
To which he replied almost inmediatelySo you breaking up with me? Like always, running away from the problem......
Yeah, running away from my money grubbing abusive boyfriend.
What are you, his personal banker?
Great Job on not replying Tiro!
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Posted 1 month ago willsucceed
offlineMemberTirofbs, yes, SW's straightup way of saying things is exactly what we need to hear. Welcome to the forum. As an outsider to your situation, I'd say you dodged a bullet. However, I know it is still hard to separate yourself emotionally. We're all do that here--walking away and creating our new lives.
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Tirofbs
offlineMemberDay Two: Oh God, I got up this morning, and on my way to the kitchen I saw my bags packed!!!!! I burst into tears, thinking to myself....wow, you're all ready to go. Ready to go NOWHERE!!!!!!! I am feeling the side effects like the next morning after having an all you can drink event. 8O. What to do, what to do, what to do
I think I am going to stay here for a little while and read as much as possible. I was also looking at all the books SW recommended. Oh God, help me please.
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willsucceed
offlineMemberTirofbs, stay strong. I think joining the gym is a good idea to get your anxiety levels down. What you're going through is hard. However, what you are doing right now is fighting for your self, for your future years of life, for your very quality of life. You can do this.
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Posted 1 month ago Tirofbs
offlineMemberReading some of the members forums, who are going through the same thing makes me feel a whole lot better!!! :D. The thought of knowing that I am not alone in this, reaffirms my decision. I will not contact him no matter what!!! Gym it is!!! Also reading as much self motivating books I can afford or get my hands on!!! Thank you guys for shunning the light.
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Tirofbs
offlineMemberThe Power, by Rhonda Byrne and MOMU. My next book it's the Secret. Keeping busy, trust me after realizing what I did and put up with, I need to be locked up in a looney hospital. Horrible, just horrible. I am glad I am starting to recognize what I need to work on.
Pleasure meeting you Luna Pearl. (;
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goodlucksuccess
offlineMemberHi Tiro..Welcome to the forum..Yeah reading all self motivating books help a lot!..In fact try LOA ( Law Of Attraction) as well..Its mentioned in one of the sections in the forum.Try That out..It helps me a lot..It quotes itself as - focus on more of what you want and less of what you don't want! And keep writing down here..Read other's breakup stories and NC diaries..Make forum buddies if you wish to..We all are here to help you out..Stay strong . take care!
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Posted 1 month ago Tirofbs
offlineMemberThank you for the support GoodLuck. You don't know what this means to me. Day three: Doing awesome this day. Met some friends and just yesterday I had a breakthrough. I wrote my break up story in it's entirety. I didn't do it before because, I was afraid of getting banned. I wrote and sent it to a buddy. In the process I started reading it, making sure there weren't any typos or errors. Well, when I was done reading my letter I started looking at it with different eyes!!!!! OMG, I can't believe I was trying to go back to that a$$hole. I can't believe I actually cried for him!!! Well......I think I cried because I had invested and wasted so much time and money on the bastard!!!!! Well, I have a few words for you, buddy!!!!
KOSOMAK, YA KHAWAL,YEBNEN KELP, KOOS,GWWAAD!!!!! Oh and yes, ELIF AIR AB TIZAK!!!!!!
Thank u all for the support!!! =D
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Tirofbs
offlineMemberToday I was so busy, I learned a few things and can't thank you guys enough for your posts. I visited the gym, and to my surprise my brother threw a party at our place!!!
Got a little drunk and now I am paying for it. 
It was worth it (giggling). I'll keep u posted on my progress. So far so good
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Posted 1 month ago Tirofbs
offlineMemberGet this, the ex contacted me asking about what should he do with my stuff. I didn't write back!!! I was tempted to do so, since I left a lot of my clothes at his place. Mind the fact that he lives in Europe. I didn't know what to do, and contacting him was out of the question. I feel like I have gone through the worse, why ruin a good thing. I applied the fast forward technique to feel better. It worked like a charm, thank you SW!!! After I felt more in control of myself, I contacted my brother and ask if he could take care of this for me. He agreed and said not to worry about a thing. If there was something really important that I needed to address that he would contact me. If not, he will take care of it all. I feel so proud of myself, words can't explain. Thank you D.
I also wanted to let everybody know to stick with the plan no matter what. The results are worth everything. 
LunaPearl, thanks for all the support 
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Tirofbs said:
Get this, the ex contacted me asking about what should he do with my stuff. I didn't write back!!!I contacted my brother and ask if he could take care of this for me. He agreed and said not to worry about a thing. If there was something really important that I needed to address that he would contact me. If not, he will take care of it all.
Great Job Tiro!
That is exactly how to handle a situation like that.
Stop and think before reacting.
And then find another way to solve the problem without making any contact, only make contact when absolutely necessary, and then if you "have to" make contact keep it all about the business at hand.
Keep up the good work!
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Choi14
offlineMemberYay!! You're doing great!!! I'm going to keep up with you from now on too.
Also, something that helps me, is watching YouTube videos on whatever you like really.May it be makeup or technology, video games, funny stuff. Anything that will make you concentrate on someone/something other than your problems with your Ex. I know it helps me, I spent my entire day watching iPhone 4S reviews haha.
Keep up the great work, ok?
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Posted 1 month ago Tirofbs
offlineMemberChoi14 said:
Yay!! You're doing great!!! I'm going to keep up with you from now on too.
Also, something that helps me, is watching YouTube videos on whatever you like really.May it be makeup or technology, video games, funny stuff. Anything that will make you concentrate on someone/something other than your problems with your Ex. I know it helps me, I spent my entire day watching iPhone 4S reviews haha.
Keep up the great work, ok?
Thank you for the encouragement. I am going to try doing that. I also wanted to let you know I am a big fan of anime!!! I love it and find it very entertaining. Love to hear from you soon =D
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Tirofbs
offlineMemberSorry for not keeping my updates. I have been on a low lately, and didn't want to bring anybody down with me. But when I do feel like crap, I come in here and read as much as i can. I send love and hugs to everyone out there.....specially the ones feeling the same way I am.
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