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I HATE SPAM! Read Our Privacy PolicyPosted 3 months ago hi Willsucceed,
yes, I am thankful for the friends that I had despite with the things I went through. Even though almost everyone of them didn't know about things happened to me now...but there is someone, online or in real world will come and asked me how am I doing, had a chat or asking me out.
7/11/2011 @ 10:26am.
Monday morning. It's public holiday in my country today, in lieu of yesterday's Eid-adha. I slept quite early last night, woke up as early as 7am. Gloomy morning till now. I feel fine though.
At times, I do still feel the emptiness in me. But I am coping.
anyway, I noticed that most of the members in this forum haven't been updating for so long...wonder what happened to all of you there? Hope to hear good news.
*hugs to all*
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The first step toward change is acceptance.
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4:55pm.
Feeling sad and low at the moment, like there's this heavy burden in my heart but I don't know what it is or why.
Can't concentrate to finish what I am doing for my work.
I guess I should go for a walk or something. Hope it doesn't rain.
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Change is not something you do, it's something you allow.
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offlineMemberKeep your head it up!! It's just life testing you to see if you are strong enough to overcome those feelings. Don't let it get to you.
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offlineMemberHey AngelBear,
Feel like that too once in a while and also today espcially cause its the Eid holidays and its quite around here. I dont even have my family around with me so depending on some friends and relatives to go to for the day. I too felt the same this morning and thought about the ex and felt how nice it would be to spend the day with someone you love.. but despite these feelings I had a lot to be grateful for today. I dont have a lot of friends as I told you so depend a lot on my gratitude journal and reading the power a lot when alone. Pm me anytime if you need to talk:). Take care and do know that we all experience such feelings once in a while.Posted 3 months ago # -
9/11/2011 @ 11:05am.
Woke up as early as 6am with a phone call from a friend that comes with a shocking news. My company's name was named as the defendant for an RM4MIL suit alongside with Facebook Company seeking damanges for defaming, slandering another paintball operator and what so not. Just great. My brother was accused of doing so and the newspaper involves our company name as well.
My brother is now seeking advice from a lawyer to counter the accusations, probably seeking the amount of damages to his and our company's reputation for false accusations against us. Not that we are scared of the sue anyway since we are not doing it. But it's just sad to learn that some people would do anything without thinking. I mean, if he has the guts of a man, why didn't he meet us face to face to clarify things first?
It's all in the headlines of the local news today: http://www.theborneopost.com/2011/11/09/paintball-operators-suing-facebook-for-rm4-mln/
anyway, please do pray that things will turn out to be on our side. We just never know. Leaving the office early today. Will be off with my brother soon to see the lawyer.
*hugs to all*
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Posted 3 months ago hi willsucceed,
thank you so much for your concern. Thankfully, I am can remain calm the whole day to handle this matter. me, my brother and his wife's phone has been ringing non stop since the news leaked by concerned paintball friends, people who knew us and relatives.
we had consulted our lawyer and she is confident that we can win this case..and I hope and pray that she is right. I knew that most people said confidently that we can win this case and counter sue them for false accusation against my brother and ruining the company's reputation but I still think it will be safer if we are not being too over confident as unexpected things can happen and I can only hope those 2 guys are really doing things without thinking thus making our job easier.
9:21pm.
I am exhausted by the whole day's event. my cousin is getting married this month, my niece will be engaged the day after my cousin's wedding reception, a friend getting engaged this weekend and in january 2012, another cousin of mine getting married. I had 3 more wedding invitations to attend in december and yeah...the wedding/engage season started. I feel....happy for them but a little envy deep inside my heart.
and yeah, recently made new friends especially from my photography group in Facebook. There's this guy who always in contact with me, we can talk about photography things a lot, and we exchanged phone numbers..because he helped me look for some camera stuff that is cheaper in his city than mine.
Only that...he is married.
the thing is...lately he became very nice to me, calling me pet names and I am not happy about it...everytime when I bought up the subject about his wife and kids (2 girls) he is trying to avoid the subject.
I guess if this keep going on, I will break the friendship altogether.
It is nice to have the attention of a guy, but from a married guy? I don't think so. Is this another test for me?
God grant me the serenity to accept things that I cannot change....
The first step toward change is acceptance.
Change is not something you do, it's something you allow.
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AngeLBeaR said:
It is nice to have the attention of a guy, but from a married guy? I don't think so. Is this another test for me?Yup.
But you will pass all these tests if you truly want to change your life, and then after that, everything you asked for will start coming to you.
Don't give up hope.
Stay Strong and Positive!
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offlineMemberI understand about the married man scenario angel bear. It is funny how LOA things work.
I had been thinking of a man I haven't seen in about 16 years. We were always attracted to each other but the timing was always off! Either I had a boyfriend or he had a girlfriend etc. We had a little kiss a few times (we were a lot younger 16 plus years ago lol) anyway all these years I have thought of him at times, it was like he was the love of my life that never was lol. Since my second break up I had thought about him quite a lot. Is he married? single? etc. Anyway lo and behold I bump into him out of the blue. It so happens he lives about a five minute drive from me and all these years I have never seen him. We went for a coffee and he told me he was married with a little girl, after we had exchanged numbers. Anyway he has messaged me since but I will not meet him again now and I have cooled off on the texts. He was being quite flirty and although I was flattered I was like you are married!!
I will not get involved with a married man as I have morals. And I will not be a married mans ego boost!
However, again it's weird how prolonged thinking about things or people can bring about such events. I'm glad we met as I now know how he is and how his life is, however I also know that the man I had on a pedestal all these years is maybe not the man I thought he was.
Life is indeed strange for me at the moment lol xxPosted 3 months ago # -
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Don't give up hope.
thank u for the support SW and BB too.
I guess that it happens for a reason...and I will pass this test...and get the life that I wanted.
I had no right to take away someone else's happiness just for my own. He is so gonna out from my life as soon as possible.
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Posted 3 months ago Bluebell said:
Life is indeed strange for me at the moment lolThat usually indicates a shift in your destiny, you're changing your path.
You are in-between where you were, and were you want to be...that's cool.
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10/11/2011 @ 11:30am.
my cousin sent me a message in Facebook to remind to attend her wedding ceremony on the 21st and her reception on 26th this month.
Okay...so I will be facing the same questions and taglines 'When is your turn?' 'Haven't you dated somebody?' 'What about that so-so you dated before (ex from donkey years)?' 'you're not getting younger you know.' 'You're just being too choosy' and many more from the people who thinks that you are better off married than staying single at 31.
And to add to the things that made the headlines yesterday, I knew the jealous relatives will be using this as a topic to give some hurtful remarks even before I pick up the glass to take a sip of drink.
Part of me didn't feel like going, and I don't feel like wanted to look at my wardrobe for something to wear, or even make an appointment to the saloon. But after some thinking...hrm..why not.
Yep..I am going to plan what I am going to wear...am gonna look awesome and confident in front of all of them. Can't wait 21st to come!
*winks*
God grant me the serenity to accept things that I cannot change....
The first step toward change is acceptance.
Change is not something you do, it's something you allow.
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willsucceed
offlineMemberAngeLBeaR, yes, you go and be magnificent. You have true friends who care about you deeply and you have the friends you've made on this forum all rooting for you. You are taking all the right steps to create a fulfilling life.
You're not going to waste a lot of time and heartache being strung along by a married man. You are going to hold your head up high and exude positive confidence because that's what you want to attract. Great attitude!
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AngeLBeaR said:
Okay...so I will be facing the same questions and taglines 'When is your turn?' 'Haven't you dated somebody?' 'What about that so-so you dated before (ex from donkey years)?' 'you're not getting younger you know.' 'You're just being too choosy' and many more from the people who thinks that you are better off married than staying single at 31.This is the one thing that really pisses me off about society...the "herd mentality" that dictates (socially) you should be just like everyone else.
If you look at the world today you will see this theory doesn't work very well, and it is what pushes people to make bad decisions.
This is the same kind of peer pressure that gets kids to have sex, do drugs, and join gangs.
This your chance to lead by example, every problem is actually an opportunity in disguise.
After all the "herd" needs a shepherd, but not the kind that keeps them under their power, one that teaches them how to lead themselves, and others.
It is amazing how many people waste their greatest gift...free will, and go with the herd mentality because they fear rejection of the herd.
You will (literally) kick some ass at that wedding.
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thank you for the endless support everyone!
11/11/2011 @ 3:24pm.
So today is 111111 and most people is excited of the 'once in a lifetime date'.
I left my office early today. My brother said not to worry as the case is a sure win case since those people didn't have a solid evidence to prove that my brother is slandering them and whatever they accused him for things he never did. Nothing to be afraid of when you know you didn't do anything wrong.
Anyway, last night I received an email from the married guy that I mentioned and he told me that he is going to Bali in dec for work and invited me to join him and that if I agree, just give him my details so he can book flight for me.
sheeeesh....okay...I am a nice person and civilised, so I won't be cursing him though I so wanted to do so. Instead of saying 'NO' in which I knew he will be keep on persuading and disturb me more...I gave him a link to a website that normally offers discount vouchers and found this one family package to Bali voucher and gave the link to him with a message "Hey, this will be just perfect for you and your family...since you are going to Bali, why not bring them along during that school holidays (dec)?" - never heard from him since. =p Hehehehe....
Okay, am leaving to the post office and then to the park for my job.
*hugs*
God grant me the serenity to accept things that I cannot change....
The first step toward change is acceptance.
Change is not something you do, it's something you allow.
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Katniss
offlineInactiveGood for you AngelBear!
Damn, the nerve of some people, huh? Every time a married guy tries to pull this shit with me, I basically do the same thing. I always ask along the lines of what might the wife think? Or maybe SHE would like to go on a trip and have some quality time alone with HER hubby? I also suggest marriage counseling.
I also have a rule that even if things head south with the marriage, I will not date the man who had been hitting on me, because if he did it to her, then he's sure to turn right around and do it to me at some point, too. It's only "fun" while the chase is on.
I'm so glad you kicked his ass!
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13/11/2011 @ 9:42am.
Woke up at 4am after a bad dream and can't get back to sleep since. It's nothing related to him, it's just one of my bad dreams that I had over and over again. I always dreamt that I am falling from somewhere high, or being pushed by someone going down, it feels almost real, falling down helplessly and before my head hit the ground, I'll woke up, breathing fast and sweating all over. I had this fear of heights and dreams like this is not fun.
Anyway, today is one of my friend's birthday and she already warned me that I am 'belong' to her this whole day. So the plan is to spend the whole day with her, first for brunch (later at 11am), then to the radio station as her guest (again!) at 1pm-4pm; then went for shopping (yes, I need to shop too) and dinner with her, perhaps movie or going for some drink somewhere until night. Sounds like a whole day filled with activities, huh?
I chat with a blogger friend 2 nights ago and she said that I 'sound' much more cheerful and better since the last time we chat. She said that she is glad as she wouldn't have to worry about me that much anymore. I am thankful that I had someone thinking of me, concern about me and all.
Actually, there is a huge paintball event going on in another state this weekend - The Paintball World Cup Asia, but despite with lots of friends who been asking me to come and join them, I refused and choose to stay back at home instead, because I knew my ex will be there.
Last night as I was browsing my customer's photos to print for them, a thought came to me, wondering who is he going there with and all (because we got together after Paintball World Cup Asia 2 years back). But instead of feeling sad and down, I took my time to take few deep breaths and be grateful (like Aloka suggested) that he was in my life once, and grateful that this year I choose to stay here, not going there...because I never knew what will happen...and what good it will bring anyway seeing him, I mean...if he really was with someone else or flirting with someone, can I bear to see that? In a positive way, I am spared from more emotional damage that I had been. I am really thankful for this!
Owh well...time to get dressed and look beautiful today. I wouldn't want to waste this lovely day and looking forward for a fun day with my friend!
*hugs*
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Posted 3 months ago willsucceed
offlineMemberAngeLBeaR, I can completely relate. I avoid anything that takes me possibly close to where my ex might be. I know some would say to get used to seeing him, but I need some more time and will eventually be able to handle it better. Any semblance of peace that I have is so hard won that I will not put myself in the situation for that to be upset if I can help it. In the future I will be able to see him because I'll be closer and closer and then finally reach indifference. I won't care who he's with and what he's doing with that person--that will be great!
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offlineMemberYou made a good decision for not going where your ex might be. I don't have facebook but one of my friends has my ex on facebook and I was with her while she was on it and he came up on the news feed. I didn't see much, just his name and a small picture but that was enough to send my heart racing and left me thinking about him too much. I made her delete him instantly. Avoiding them as much as you can is definitly the best way.
Good to see you're doing so well with NC
And good luck with the wedding! Don't let any comments from family get to you.
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16/11/2011 @ 10:49am.
A rainy night last night. Sunny morning today. Feeling okay.
Was discussing something at the photography group in Facebook last night over a member's photo and this one particular member said:
"there is few things about best result in getting best shot, apart from photography skills..Law of Attraction, have a picture in mind, plan for it, think positive and wait patiently. God willing, the percentage on getting it will be slightly higher."
So starting today, Apart from good things in my life, I also want to attract the picture I had in my mind so I can capture beautiful photos just like I wished it will be!
Went to see a friend who came to town yesterday. Got myself a new handbag that I had been searching for, at a knock down price. Really happy!
Wish my day will go on just fine. I hope all of you have a nice day ahead too.
*hugs*
God grant me the serenity to accept things that I cannot change....
The first step toward change is acceptance.
Change is not something you do, it's something you allow.
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willsucceed
offlineMemberAngeLBeaR said: So starting today, Apart from good things in my life, I also want to attract the picture I had in my mind so I can capture beautiful photos just like I wished it will be!
AngeLBeaR, this is a great idea. It seems like when you set up the photograph and manipulate the mechanics of taking the photograph, then you know exactly what to do to capture what you want. This seems like a real change in how you go about things and allows even more creativity.
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10:30pm.
Had a chat with a friend (the one whose ex is my ex's team mate I told before) just now.
She just returned from the international paintball tournament I told you guys about and well, sharing her own experiences.
After initiating her own NC with her ex (almost the same period as I did), the was surprised that her ex been chasing around her during the weekend of the tournament. It really upset him so much that she refused to answer his calls, text and even rejected his invitation for both lunch and dinner that it went to an extend he shouted at her in the field on purpose (she's a referee just like me, and he is one of the players who happened to play in her field), and it made him more look like a fool because instead of having a shouting match back at him, she professionally advised him right in front of his team mates and audiences that he should follow the rules, and shouting at referees is not one of it, and any Division 1 players who been playing in this sport for years should have known this rule.
She said that he really look upset when she attended the player's party, having fun with other people except him and he really wanted to have her attention back...but that's not going to happen anymore - she had moved on, carefully planned her life from now until next year, and he is not in it.
In my opinion, she truly had kicked love's ass on her own (without even realising this forum existed) and deep inside, I wish to be at the place where she is now, feeling indifferent and stronger when being in front of him and all.
I learnt something from her today: We can get our lives back, only if we really wanted to, and when he finally came crawling to get us back...it doesn't matter anymore because they no longer a priority, not even an option to be considered.
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17/11/2011 @ 1:20pm.
I was looking for some of my items and just realised it was at my ex's. Can't really fly over there right now due to lots of things to be done, work and all...but at the same time I was scared if he actually throw some of my personal thing from his place. (logically speaking, since he got the heart to leave me without saying goodbye, throwing my stuff away without telling me is not a problem to him too)
was thinking if it's a good idea to send him an email/msg to let him know to keep it for me until I am going to collect it...here's the message I drafted "Hi, just would like to let you know that I will be collecting my personal items from your place. So I hope it's ok for you to keep it at your place first. I will contact you when I am going to collect them. Thank you." - or you have better ideas?
(note: asking him to courier it wont be an option since he wont be troubling himself to pack and send it to me, and I don't have friends in the city where he lives that can identify things that belongs to me, doubt that he would remember which one is which except some of my clothing items)
Does this means I am going to break NC?
suggestions are highly appreciated before I do anything.
God grant me the serenity to accept things that I cannot change....
The first step toward change is acceptance.
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willsucceed
offlineMemberI'll be interested in what SW says.
I was wondering if one option is to send a postage pre-paid box (addressed and already paid to be mailed back to you) that your items would fit in. I guess your concern is that he won't take the effort of putting them in the prepared (mailing address and postage) box?
How important are these items? I'm assuming important since you are taking action, but I just wanted to make sure that the importance of these items is worth the possible rejection from him about you getting them or finding out that he did throw them away.
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Posted 3 months ago apart from my clothing items, shoes, books I had (mostly about photography which can only be found there - I live in a quite smaller city), my computer gadgets, camera items/accessories (filters/lense/tripod), paintball gears, spareparts (from small to big items), CD/DVD softwares for my work, some of my photo collections (they worth more than him), my player's/referee field entrance ID tags (important for use to attend any paintball venue for identification in his state - currently I am using the one issued to me because I only work inside my state). Also a file where I left my warranty cards for my cameras and lenses that will be valid for another 3 years.
Knowing him, he won't even remember which drawers, closet I put all those stuff. basically, I will be almost moving half of the house minus the furniture.
God grant me the serenity to accept things that I cannot change....
The first step toward change is acceptance.
Change is not something you do, it's something you allow.
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AngeLBeaR said:
was thinking if it's a good idea to send him an email/msg to let him know to keep it for me until I am going to collect it...here's the message I drafted "Hi, just would like to let you know that I will be collecting my personal items from your place. So I hope it's ok for you to keep it at your place first. I will contact you when I am going to collect them. Thank you." - or you have better ideas?Getting back your belongings is not breaking NC, asking him personal information that is none of your business, or answering his questions about your personal business (NC) is breaking NC.
I just wonder why it took so long for you to miss this very valuable stuff?
You should have taken care of all this right after the break up.
Now you worry about him throwing your stuff away...it's a little late to worry don't you think?
If you really need this stuff, contact him and set up a time to go there (bring a friend for support) and collect your things.
The best kind of break is a clean, and complete break, right from the start, and that means getting ALL your valuables back right away after the break up, not over 2 months later.
How to conduct business with your ex and not break NC is covered in the free plan under one of the NC links, go read up on it.
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thank you for the suggestion. I know it's too late to ask... =( i'm sorry.
When I first initated NC with him, I already live in my city (we are in LDR at the first place anyway where I used to go back to his place once every 2 months at least), and had not able to fly over to his place (due to work load, events here and finance (the 'low cost airlines' are not exactly low cost at all :banghead:).
Plus, I can't bring up myself to talk to him at that moment, let alone sending him a message as such because I am scared that I won't be able to handle myself not to ask about him other than taking my things back...much less not to break down...and it hurts so much back then...
money is a little too tight for me these few months. careful Planning too, how to get there from the airport (it's quite a distance from airport to the city center (one of our forum members here knew better)), transport to go to his place to collect, my temporary accommodation (basically homeless there already).
Serve me right for depended too much on him during our 2 years together. Now, I had to figure everything all by myself, and it's hard...since it's a big city that I am not quite familiar of to go around alone.
The best time I can think of is to fly there during a tournament right in the city where he lives where I can save some money (since referee is provided with accommodation, and I might able to bring a referee friend to company me there to his place) but there's no near date for any tournament in his area for now...even the recent ones is held at the North side.
so for now, I just wish he would keep it until I can fly over to get it. Just keeping it for me, I hope it's not too much to ask from him.
and I hope I didn't say the wrong things here....that caused me to get banned. My mistake for not settling this earlier, I admit this. Too much things goes over my head I guess at that time that I can't think which ones should comes first or need to be done. Foolish me.
God grant me the serenity to accept things that I cannot change....
The first step toward change is acceptance.
Change is not something you do, it's something you allow.
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AngeLBeaR said:
I hope I didn't say the wrong things here....that caused me to get banned. My mistake for not settling this earlier, I admit this.No problem, everyone makes mistakes.
But remember what is most important here, you, and you're happiness, not your material objects.
Whatever you do, do not trade one (your happiness, emotional/personal freedom) for the other (your belongings).
You will always win if you live in the present, and let go of the past.
Everything happens for a reason, a good reason.
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Posted 3 months ago thank you SW. Really appreciate it so much. *BIG HUGS*
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The first step toward change is acceptance.
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18/11/2011 @ 11:17am.
Okay, so I sent him a short email this morning at 9am:
"Hi, I hope you can keep my things at your place for the time being. I will contact you when I fly over to collect them. Thank you."
Honestly, I just want him to read that email and then just keep it to himself just like the time I sent him the NC message, no reply, nothing. But at 10:17am I received a reply:
"Don't worry, your things are safe here. I am not the type of person who simply will throw your things away. How are you getting on? I noticed that your photos are getting better and I am proud of you. I already saw the potential in you since the beginning, you are better than I am and now you are proving it among the people who take you seriously in photography. I am glad. You take care, dear."
I deleted the email (right after I copy pasted the above).
I didn't expect for a reply, so I don't wish to reply. Now that I knew my stuff is safe, I can slowly plan my travel next. That's all, and nothing more.
God grant me the serenity to accept things that I cannot change....
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annabelleloka8
offlineMemberHi Angelbear,
DO not reply at all. You know that your stuff is safe so thats all that matters. When the time is right, just get your stuff and carry on with your evolution with full on blinkers. You are the most important person in your life right now.
take care.Posted 3 months ago # -
22/11/2011 @ 8:50am.
Feeling fine.
Last weekend I took my own sweet time taking photos about almost everything that came into my interest, trying to improve my skills. Went for paintball training as usual, will be having a big jungle war game event organised by my brother this coming 3rd December and I feel like wanted to join along to play instead of manning the war arena like I used to.
I re-colored my hair again yesterday, at the advice of a friend who is a beautician, who thinks the first hair color she applied to me is not making me look good enough. She brought me a bottle of new hair color with different shades this time and colored my hair herself. It's good to have a good friend who acted like my personal image consultant...and she won't tolerate having her girl friends going out with her looking dull.
When I got home, a package already waiting for me to open. One of my friends who lives at the neighboring state sent me a butterfly-shaped pendant, something that I always wanted. I am so happy!
As days goes by, I found that I no longer feel that much pain anymore. I am determine to make myself happy, and I am responsible for my own happiness.
*hugs*
God grant me the serenity to accept things that I cannot change....
The first step toward change is acceptance.
Change is not something you do, it's something you allow.
Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you.Posted 3 months ago # -
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jasmine
offlineInactiveDear AB,
Great Job by not replying back to your ex
I am so happy for you that you deleted his e-mail rightaway which shows that you have evolved a lot And yes I saw your pics with that new hairclour..you look awesome
Stay strong & positive
Take care,
JasminePosted 3 months ago # -
Thank you willsucceed and Jasmine. Your endless support to me here too played a big role for me to move on. =)
24/11/2011 @ 6:26pm.
Christmas came early again for me this year. Surprisingly Another friend from the west side of the country sent a cute pink bag for me as an early Christmas gift! when I called her to say thank you for the gift, she said that she just came back from a roadtrip with her husband and son that when they stopped by at the night market, she spotted the bag and I came across her mind, which is why she brought it and delivered it to me.
I am really thankful for the kind thoughts by my friends, even though they are just the people I knew from blogs and hardly ever met, they take me in as their good friend and thinks of me.
Just like willsucceed said 'That is worth its weight in gold.' and every single day I am very thankful that I gained so many and being compensate for the loss I had. I lost the guy that I love, but in return, I get so many friends that loves and cares for me a lot, despite with the distance, they always made me feel their presence as if very near and to remind me that I am not alone at all.
Thank you so much for these blessings!
*hugs*
God grant me the serenity to accept things that I cannot change....
The first step toward change is acceptance.
Change is not something you do, it's something you allow.
Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you.Posted 3 months ago # -
25/11/2011 @ 11pm.
Just returned from a long day today. My friend's mom came all the way from Saudi Arabia to attend her convo tomorrow. So, since my friend is not a local and I am one of her few friends here that she is close with, she asked if I can company her to the airport to pick her mom and stepdad, then send them to check in at the hotel in the city and also bring them out for dinner together.
Their flight arrived at 3:50pm, so since my friend picked me up early (11am) we decided to go to the mall for brunch, stroll around window shopping (I am actually looking for a beanie hat) then decided to watch the movie, 'Immortals' to kill some time before head to the airport. (note: the movie is too gruesome for me, though)
It was my first time meeting her parents. They are friendly, especially her mother. When we checked them into the hotel, we carried their bags to their room then she (the mom) invited me to sit down and rest. What touches me most is that she gave me a hug all the sudden and treated me just like the way she treated my friend. After that, they were having their evening prayers and we went for a nice dinner.
I had a great time today. It is nice being treated as a family member by someone who wasn't even related to you. The kind lady's hug to me means a lot...it was as if telling me 'you are not alone', in a way.
I am really thankful for today.
*hugs*
God grant me the serenity to accept things that I cannot change....
The first step toward change is acceptance.
Change is not something you do, it's something you allow.
Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you.Posted 2 months ago # -
willsucceed
offlineMemberAngeLBeaR, I know what you mean. It's very odd for me to live without touching another person at all for days, weeks, and now months. I can see how a first romantic encounter is probably going to be pretty intense--just from the touching aspect alone, much less anything else.
Posted 2 months ago #
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