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I HATE SPAM! Read Our Privacy PolicyPosted 5 months ago woke up this morning, feeling ok.
Still had dreams of him (last night in fact) but I woke up feeling nothing. It's another day at work again today...listening to The Power first thing in the morning, and in between my days and before I went to sleep. Each time I'm listening to it, it really made me feel better.
It was raining heavily last night, sleep was better. I hope can do the same tonight too (it's 12:44pm here, in case you wondering).
The first thing I did when wake up in the morning is to say 'Thank you' for the good things that I had...no matter how small. Gratitude destroys negative thoughts..and it really helps.
Thinking to go out for photo hunting after work today..maybe to catch a nice sunset (if luck is in my way).
Note to myself: Think positive!
God grant me the serenity to accept things that I cannot change....
The first step toward change is acceptance.
Change is not something you do, it's something you allow.
Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you.Posted 5 months ago #-
sweetcalendula
offlineMemberHey AB,
It will improve day by day... slowly k? I dreamt of him just a puny part of him too and i woke up feeling nothing a well. LOA really helps right? And same here, I expressed my gratitude too the first thing in the morning today!
Photo hunting sounds nice!
Stay strong and positive!
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6:06pm. Rained heavily. No sunset to catch today. *sigh* Which means, no running today but I did some workout at home.
Anyway, suddenly he crossed my mind again. My good mood almost gone just like that. Tried to catch a breath and thinking of the things that makes me happy...small things, big things...anything.
Gradually, that longing, pain and hurt slowly disappear.
Listening to the Power now.
I need to keep my mind focused on getting my life back.
Note to myself: Stay strong...hang on there.
God grant me the serenity to accept things that I cannot change....
The first step toward change is acceptance.
Change is not something you do, it's something you allow.
Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you.Posted 5 months ago # -
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Posted 5 months ago Jetlag
offlineInactiveDear AngelBeaR,
I had a dream about my ex just now. Its been awhile since the last time I had it. When I was about to cry, I stood up and left my bed, turned my laptop on and wrote an email to my friends and family without mentioning him at all. I had already told them that he's my past. So whenever he crosses my mind, I just talk with them and I'll be ok because we'll never bring him to our conversation. I'm so afraid of being lonely. That's why I always need to be surrounded by people I love and care a lot, mostly at the time like this, when Im single.
AngelBeaR, take it from me. It may help you too when you're feeling blue. It's temporal, we all can get through this.
Stay strong and hang on there
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Thank you for your endless support jetlag.
I slept peacefully last night. No dreams or whatsoever. I made it a habit to 'thank you' at least one thing that comes into my mind when I woke up and also before I sleep.
When I feel down yesterday evening I am thinking of things that makes me happy and gradually, I feel better..and chat with friends in googletalk, I totally forgot about being sad and down the hour before. In the midst of my chat with one of my friends, she suddenly said, "I feel you being positive and happy. I am happy for you."
You see, it struck me that LOA really works. If we feel happy and have positive vibes around us, even friends that is thousand miles away can feel it even without seeing us in person.I am determine to keep myself in the highest positive frequency. There will be down moments from time to time, but I learnt that if I knew how to not let the negative thoughts ruin my day - things will be easier.
Note to myself: keep it up!!!
God grant me the serenity to accept things that I cannot change....
The first step toward change is acceptance.
Change is not something you do, it's something you allow.
Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you.Posted 5 months ago # -
sweetcalendula
offlineMemberHey AB,
I feel the same way too. Slowly the dreams I had about him ceased day by day. Can't deny I do think about him at times, missing him at certain period as well. Waking up everyday feeling different too. I'm so glad that you are doing better day by day!
LOA does work. Remember I was talking about the senior I used to like, he has actually hooked up with his bestfriend. I was crushed initially, bcos it was a lil too late for me, but I felt much better after that - thanks to LOA. I believe, really really believe things do happened for a reason. Time will definitely tell.
Yep, positive vibes will make things much more easier!
Cheers to us! Nways you should listen to Rihanna's Cheers. It's a cool song! xx
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Posted 5 months ago Just return from playing paintball and had a brisk walk in the park. I took the time I need, meditating while walking...with each step thinking of things that I feel gratitude for. Nothing fancy to be thankful of..just the simple things that we took for granted, for the nice weather, for the air I breathe, for the blue sky, fresh air...being gratitude that I can walk, talk, smell and taste.
Feeling much better after the all workout, meeting friends..and positive vibes around. I love looking at children playing at the nearby swimming pool (it was located in a sports complex with lots of facilities) and the playground cause their laughter, having so much fun makes me smile.
I am excited to visit a new hair stylist next week. got a friend's wedding to attend (and already decide what to wear), plus lots of friends remarked that I lost weight. and this morning when I awake, I looked myself in the mirror and smiled. It's a good way to start the day, isn't?
Feel good about anything of yourself, or anything that anyone else has, you are bringing them to yourself.
Note to myself: What you give, is what you receive.
God grant me the serenity to accept things that I cannot change....
The first step toward change is acceptance.
Change is not something you do, it's something you allow.
Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you.Posted 5 months ago #-
Monday - 3:11pm (Asia). It's rainy afternoon.
No longer had dreams of him. So far, no longer wake up feeling down or negative.
I developed a habit to say 'thank you' for all the things that happened to me for the day (before bed), 'thank you' before I had my meal, 'thank you' for the rain and so many more. Say 'thank you' when waking up for the good night's sleep/rest - look into the mirror and smiled at my own reflection. I noticed that the person looking back at me is no longer with a frown or looking miserable, but someone that is eager to start the day!I also learnt to laugh at myself when things didn't go right by telling myself that it wasn't that bad at all. Looking at the positive side of the bad things happened. Friends noticed that I act POSITIVE and they are HAPPY when they see me happy.
there's nothing wrong to look at yourself in the mirror every morning or night and say "Good morning/hello/good nite beautiful/handsome!" <--- because we all are created beautiful/handsome in our own unique ways.
I noticed too that with this frequent exercise, even though it just started for merely days, it boost up my self esteem and confidence. When it happens, I feel good...when I feel good, I feel it's easier to get thru my day, and before I knew it, night has come and I am ready to bed, eager to wake up and face another day.
Note to myself: The more you feel positive, the more good things will come to your way.
God grant me the serenity to accept things that I cannot change....
The first step toward change is acceptance.
Change is not something you do, it's something you allow.
Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you.Posted 5 months ago # -
sanity_fair
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You're so right, AB! It just shifts things when you are positive. I just signed my divorce papers, and I feel great! You are evolving too! Isn't NC fantastic?
Love that you are feeling awesome too! (Like the rain like you're on that social network clicking on 'like'!)
Hope is not the conviction that something will turn out well but the certainty that something makes sense, regardless of how it turns out.
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Posted 5 months ago Hi SF...thank you for your support.
I had my fair share of ups and downs too...there are times that really wanted to bring me down, but I am doing what I should do - whenever there's something makes me down, like thinking of him or something, I tried to think and focus on the things that makes me happy instead.
The more frequent we exercise by thinking positive, the more it heals the pain - and the faster we evolve towards for our own good.
God grant me the serenity to accept things that I cannot change....
The first step toward change is acceptance.
Change is not something you do, it's something you allow.
Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you.Posted 5 months ago #-
break222
offlineMemberHi AngelBear,
that's a good way to relieve the pain. I tend to do something similar. I think of a moment where I was really happy and recreate that feeling. Sometimes it just helps to look at yourself in the mirror and smile. I do this every morning
Take Care,
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Posted 5 months ago I was alone in my office today, after finishing my job, I was listening to The Power again - I never get tired listening to it because every time I did, it made me reflected lots of things that I never realized before.
And I went thru my inbox to clear some old emails, archives and found some photos that I had taken all these time, including some of the trips we made together, kept in folders that I had forgotten for quite sometime now. I didn't feel down or anything like it, but it made me reflect back to see things we went thru together, why we started attracted to each other and when it started to fall apart that brings me here:
How we met
- We had been involved in the same sport (paintball) at almost the same period of time, (he started in early 2005, I started in late 2005). We didn't communicate that much at first, only some polite greets whenever we met, only communicate with each other as 'someone I knew from a paintball event'. Plus, I am living in the East and he is at the West side of the country, we are separated by the sea. Somehow, the friendship thru forums, social network blooms. We get to know each other slowly, sharing whatever that goes in our lives like you would do with your friends....and we fall in love
- Apart from paintball, we share the same passion for photography, music and we found out that we had almost the same stubbornness and was amused that we both shared the same birthday - 11 July. He is 15 years older than me, divorced and has 2 grown up kids. Son is living with him, while the daughter is living with the ex wife overseas. Friendship goes strong, and before we realised it, after that one particular tournament, I returned back home and he finally confessed how he felt, I had to admit that I feel the same way too - I found that he is different from any guys that I had failed relationships before. He is not rich, but had a stable job, living a simple life, not good looking either (I had to admit this)...but none of this matters because it's the feeling when you with that someone matters more. It was good and fun while it lasted. His home became my 2nd home, and we always looking forward to see each other (we met once or twice every 2-3months).We going on trips, photos hunting, paintball events whenever we're together. There are some ups and downs but we went through it just fine (or so, we think). We communicate daily - phone calls/text/emails/chats. He took care of me when I was sick, giving foot/back rubs after a long tiring day at paintball events without complaining. There are times he funded my flight tickets so we can meet each other, planning for the next time we gonna see each other again. Last july, we visited Sarawak (Borneo) for our birthday.
By now, I am no longer playing paintball for my team, only managing them due to my injury 3 years ago and became a full time paintball referee for both local and international events. I only play during the weekends for fun and to exercise. He on the other hand, still plays with his team in a higher division, an official photographer for paintball events (if he is not playing), also helping out another operator to organise one of the well-known paintball leagues in the country.
What went wrong then?
- things went fine at first, but due to the tension of LDR, my insecurities, my paintball involvement is having some problems and pressures from some parties (who might be intimidated by having a woman as a head ref for the state), with my family problems...we had our fair share or arguments. As I looked back into the old emails and chat archives, I had been bitter, insecure and hurdled some accusations without thinking - for him flirting with other women, for him not caring for me so much and so many more. As I read thru, he had been doing his best to explain and up til one time, he no longer bother to explain anymore. We even had some certain things that is already off-topic (paintball matters) cause it will caused more tension when talking about it, when during our friendship, we had no problems talking about it.It started to get slow in June this year...where he said he got a major problem that involves his family and all. I backed off from it as he told me that he didn't want to get me involved. But we still in contact whenever we could, however that made me feel more insecure. But we somehow managed to get thru with our July plan, had a week of fun, spending time together. But then...once August started, he had started to detached himself from me.
I got panicked. I did all the chasing, asking, wondering why it happened. All the answers came as 'I don't know' 'I can't think' 'I am blank right now.'. he no longer chat/call/text me unless I did, and he only replied when he feel like to. Until one of our mutual friends chat with him, he told her that he 'feels like wanted to be single again'. I tried to hint with him if he got something to tell me, he told me there's none. I got confused, hurt and abandoned.
What I found
After I sent my NC letter to him, I never hear anything from him till now. Being as stubborn as I am, I always knew he respected my wishes when I told him not to contact me as per the letter. Had to admit that I am in an emotional roller coaster. It hurts and painful. But since listening to The Power, reading all the NC diaries here, friends here that is being supportive, I learnt to put myself together again, to think clearly.Pro's of our relationship
- He is a caring man, supportive, not just a boyfriend but a good friend
- we had common interest in almost everything
- though there are times I am being unreasonable and all, he never raise his voice to me
- I can rely on him to give me his honest opinion on some issues
- he accepts my past, as I did to his and never forces me to do things that i dont wish.Con's of our relationship
- long distance
- different religion
- communication problem - we tend to brush everything off, if there's an argument we simply let each other cool off and then resume back as if there's nothing wrong, instead of discussing on how to get over this together.
- my insecurities and low self confidence. I feel as if he is progressing in things he did, I was left behind.
- he always told me that he is not a good bf, and always apologizing anything that leads to my unhappiness (just to end the arguments)NC is actually good time to self-reflect ourselves..and I realized that in most cases, whether we admit it or not, both parties did contributed to something that leads to a break up. It takes two to tango. Now that I realized part of the things that I did wrong, I am forgiving myself and get my life back on track where it supposed to be. I hope he evolves too. and someday, no matter if we are going to get back together or not, I hope I can have the chance to tell him 'I'm sorry.'
Note to myself: Sometimes to lose balance for love is part of living a balanced life.
God grant me the serenity to accept things that I cannot change....
The first step toward change is acceptance.
Change is not something you do, it's something you allow.
Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you.Posted 5 months ago #-
Hi Jasmine,
yeah, I did admit that when I do my own self-reflection it's kinda emotional. But I believe if we want to release ourself from these things that kept binding our feet, we should see things from our part too, because there will be certain things that we think it was nothing that eventually accumulated over time and exploded...and keep on telling ourselves that we are right all along won't help to the healing process.
I believed that if I learn to accept my weaknesses and to acknowledge my wrongs, I can see things more clearly rather than just pointing fingers at him - I forgot that I caused this hurt to myself too. instead on focusing the bad sides of them for breaking up with us, we tend to forget the good side of them that made us fall for them at the first place...thus when only the bad side of them is focused on, that makes us bitter, and bitter generate negative vibes.
I am thankful for the chance to be able to spend the time with him. It was good while it last. And I am thankful for the things I accept now and thankful for the things I receive tomorrow.
I'm gonna get thru this. I will!
God grant me the serenity to accept things that I cannot change....
The first step toward change is acceptance.
Change is not something you do, it's something you allow.
Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you.Posted 5 months ago # -
zuzan
offlineInactivewell when i read ur posts i realy feel that u are getting stronger day by day.....yes hating him wont do any good for us...it will attract more bad.....at least we should be greatfull to them for opening our eyes....
i have started listning to "the power"...my god its been an amzing book.....and kind of thing we should really have at this point...
'stay stong ......u can do this....yes u can!!!!!!
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Posted 5 months ago willsucceed
offlineMemberThanks for sharing your story of how you gathered momentos from the old relationship and put them in perspective. I haven't had the courage yet, but I am going to take some particularly "charged" sentimental items and put them in a box in a building at the back corner of my property. I'm not able to actually burn or discard them, but having them out of the house will be a relief. Your description gives me some strength to do this.
You've shown some strength that inspires me.
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Hi willsucceed,
I learnt that acceptance is the first step towards healing. Acceptance is all about ourself, opening our hearts to accept things happened to us and look it in a positive way - without bitterness, hate and anger.
it takes lots of thoughts, courage to leave all the pieces behind and to look forward tomorrow with courage. it's not easy, trust me. on those early days I woke up feeling down, hardly able to sleep and I never stop asking why he treat me like this. I became too focused on the bad times I am having now, rather than be thankful of the good and happy times we spent before.
I strongly recommend The Power. If you had the chance to read/listen to it, it surely will made you realised things that you overlooked.
Stay strong and positive there. *hugs*
God grant me the serenity to accept things that I cannot change....
The first step toward change is acceptance.
Change is not something you do, it's something you allow.
Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you.Posted 5 months ago # -
willsucceed
offlineMemberAngelBearR,
One of my goals this week is to get "The Power" and the "The Secret" from the library so that I can listen/read them this weekend. I really hope I find both of them on CD. I've been tempted to buy an iPod in the past but haven't taken the time, so perhaps this could be my foray into that and downloading books.
I have gone through shock and emotional turmoil, but haven't yet experienced anger. I have longed for anger just so it means I don't have to experience the hurt of emotional turmoil. When anger comes I will try to shift its focus to fuel the positive things I'm doing to develop myself and to move to acceptance. Also, the focusing on breath, heartbeat and air movement technique helps bring some calm to moments of hurt and despair, so perhaps that technique can also help during moments of anger as well.
Thanks for preparing me for how I handle anger.
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While looking thru at my old blog posts I found out that I posted this some time in 2009:
Once upon a time, there is a man who claimed he has the most beautiful heart. It was perfect, with no wounds whatsoever, and indeed, everyone said it was the most beautiful heart they ever seen. Thus, the man became well known all around town for his heart, he became boasted and proud. Every day, he would go out and showed it for everyone to see.
One day, while he was showing his heart to see, an old man stepped up and said "If you think your heart is the most beautiful, see mine. It is more beautiful than yours." Saying so, the old man shows his. The crowd and the man looked in disgust. For the old man's heart was full of scars, there are even some bleeding wounds and some parts of his heart has holes while there are some holes were filled with pieces of what appear from other hearts but it doesn't fit the holes exactly and not to mention there are jagged edges around it.
The man laughed at the old man. "This is what you call 'beautiful'??? You must be kidding me! Look at my heart. Yours is not even close to what I have. It was perfect, no scars and certainly, no holes!" The old man replied, "Even it is so, I would never want to trade my heart to have one like yours. You see, every tear represents every person that I gave a piece of my heart. Everytime I see them, I would give a piece of my heart to them, and so often I received a piece back, which I put it in the holes to replace my pieces I gave, that's why it doesn't fit perfectly. It has some rough edges which I cherish them a lot, because it reminds me of the love that we shared.
Sometimes, I gave a piece of my heart away, but the other person didn't return it back to me, which is why there are some holes remained opens. It is painful, but it reminded me of the love that I have for these people too, with a hope that someday they will fill the space that I had been waiting. Now do you see what true beauty means?"
The man who had been listening, stood there with tears flowing down his cheeks. He then walked towards the old man and ripped a piece of his perfect heart and offered it to the old man. The old man took it and gave his own as an exchange. The man then placed the old man's piece into the place where the hole has been. It fit, but not perfectly, with some jagged edges.
The man looked at his heart, no longer perfect but more beautiful than ever, for the love from the old man has flowed into his heart.
This is life. There are so many times we gave the pieces of our hearts and received other's in return to fill the holes from where we ripped it from. Sometimes, we received, sometimes we don't. Sometimes someone just tear a piece and let it bleed, leave us wounded.
A wounded heart is not something to be ashamed of. It's not something to be left as a burden in our souls. A wounded heart is supposed to make us stronger to face our tomorrows, to be able to laugh at ourselves when it's already passed behind us. To be able to face a greater challenge ahead, to be able to help others as a good role model that if we can do it, others can too. More ever, the more reason to love, the more reason to appreciate what will be given to us after the storm has passed.
If you love, and get hurt, love more; when you love more and get hurt more, love even more; When you love even more and get hurt even more, love some more until it hurts no more. And you know that you healed when you no longer remember why it hurts at the first place.
Note: I remember I wrote this post for a friend that time. Hope it will be useful for you and me. *hugs*
God grant me the serenity to accept things that I cannot change....
The first step toward change is acceptance.
Change is not something you do, it's something you allow.
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AngeLBeaR said:
A wounded heart is not something to be ashamed of. It's not something to be left as a burden in our souls. A wounded heart is supposed to make us stronger to face our tomorrows, to be able to laugh at ourselves when it's already passed behind us. To be able to face a greater challenge ahead, to be able to help others as a good role model that if we can do it, others can too.That's true...a break up is not something to be ashamed of, it is all a part of life and our journey.
Great Story AB!
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offlineInactiveHi AngeLBeaR,
what a great post it is
I just loved it specially these lines :"If you love, and get hurt, love more; when you love more and get hurt more, love even more; When you love even more and get hurt even more, love some more until it hurts no more. And you know that you healed when you no longer remember why it hurts at the first place."
How are you doing today?
Take care,
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Posted 5 months ago thank you for liking the post everyone. Hope it helps all of us to look into the sad things that happened to us to turn into positive ones.
It's 16/09/2011 (12:29am) here. Rain just stopped.
What is new about me...hrm...owh yeah, I found some new interest just in case I am unable to go out for my evening walk. I learn to dance Banghra (an Indian dance) from Youtube! LOL....it was funny as I hardly can follow the steps but the fun of it made me laughed at myself and I had fun!
One of my roses bloomed again...and I am so happy that I spent 30 minutes taking photo of it (ignoring the stares from my neighbors LOL).
Met a good friend of mine (she said she love to see how I had lose weight), company her and her business client to buy some local pearls and we managed to get good discount for the guy - someone's going to make one wife happy today with the purchase.
I almost got myself a pearl ring but it really didn't 'click' with me...so I decided to wait for a better one someday (You ladies know what I meant when the thing we see has this 'connection' with you at the first glance).After that I managed to close a good business deal for my company and then went to watch movie with my younger brother. The movie was so funny that I been laughing so much - something that I haven't did or feel like for the past month.
Will be attending a friend's wedding today in the evening. had already prepared what to wear (will be wearing RED =p) - a traditional chinese attire called 'cheongsam' (well, where else I can show my half chinese root ) hehehehe...and yeah...having appointment with my hair stylist for make up and hairdo too. Will not be telling her that it will be the last time she will touch my long hair...had made an appointment with my good friend's stylist on Sunday for my haircut. So..bye bye long hair~~~~~
I still had a hard time choosing the what/which hair color though.
my friends are excited when I told them that I will be having new haircut that they started to flood my phone and emails with different hair styles and hair color...goodness...but I am excited as they all wanted to see me looking good Stay positive and strong - and things will be easier ahead.
God grant me the serenity to accept things that I cannot change....
The first step toward change is acceptance.
Change is not something you do, it's something you allow.
Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you.Posted 5 months ago #-
Hi everyone,
2:16am. 17/09/2011. Just reached home from the wedding reception. Even though it is a rainy evening, everyone seem didn't care. There are 4 of us invited to the reception - me, my brother, my SIL and my other friend (replacing my best friend who unable to attend). The hairstylist did the hair do and make up just nice. Feels so good looking at my own self.
Just to share, as I was getting my hair washed, I was reading a magazine when I came across an article and it said, "When you feel positive, you feel confident to yourself. Which is why it is very important that you feel good about yourself. When you feel good about yourself, you will be happy and when you happy, the people around you will instantly feel the positive vibrations through you whenever you go, and it will draw them to get to know you better." <-- make sense isn't? (Another LOA lesson)
Anyway, food was great, I feel confident in my 3 inch heels that I haven't wear for quite sometime. Meet some old friends, had danced, sing...laughter and happiness everywhere. After the reception, my brother suggested we all went to watch late night movie - in our pretty clothes that not to be wasted! Imagine that ignoring the stares of curious people, with all the make up, fancy hairdo and the ladies in heels, dressed to the best, sitting in the cinema with drinks and popcorn in hand, laughing out loud at Johnny English!
:DWhen we are truly happy, we feel good..and feeling good is LOVE.
Note to myself: Hope tomorrow and the day after will be better than yesterday.
God grant me the serenity to accept things that I cannot change....
The first step toward change is acceptance.
Change is not something you do, it's something you allow.
Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you.Posted 5 months ago # -
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Posted 5 months ago Hello everyone!
It's been a good weekend for me. (today is monday 19/09/2011 @ 11:02pm)
I finally had my hair cut last Saturday~~ am so happy with the result...everyone said it look nice on me and made me look younger and fresh! Some exciting things happened..me and my friend went to window shopping at the mall afterwards (it's mid-month, so shopping is actually the last thing in my mind) but surprisingly, there's a clearance sale in one shop that sells tote bags that I had been wanted...and it's in 70% off!
As if it didn't enough...I had admiring one beaded bracelet that one of my friends had in one of her trips to other state, I never found it sold in my city before, so I always been wishing for one...guess what....I found the EXACT same bracelet in one of the ladies' accessories shop...the price tag was quite a little expensive to my budget, but as I was about to put it back and thinking to get it only during my next pay day, the sales lady came up to me and said it was on sale - 70%!
Okay, it started to get weird when my friend insisted we went inside this shop (that I never seem to find anything that I want) to look around, I hesitantly followed her, with no intention of wanted to look or buy anything...suddenly, it's there - a pink (my favorite color) straw hat that I had been looking for. Tried it on, love it so much...price tag 19.90. I placed the hat at the counter and the lady at the counter told me, "You're lucky, miss. This hat actually priced at 49.90, and the only one that arrived in our stock." You can imagine how surprised I am...even my friend remarked, "Seems like good things comes to you one by one."
On Sunday, me and my friend went to do some photo hunting at some local tourist spots and manage to catch some beautiful sunset shots too. Weather had been fine - I let myself indulged a little with some good food, no workout for 2 days LOL.
There are certain moments where I feel 'empty' a little bit that feels like wanted to bring me down and sad, but I immediately divert my attention to things that made me happy. For at least 2 nights, I am able to sleep immediately without thinking too much.
I know there are still so many things that I had to go thru and road ahead will not be as smooth as it seems. But now I sensed that my frequent practice of LOA seems to show its results...I couldn't be more happier.
I learnt to see little things that brings joy - the good weather, looking at babies, even when the traffic light goes green...and simply say 'thank you'.
Hope you all out there had a day ahead too.
God grant me the serenity to accept things that I cannot change....
The first step toward change is acceptance.
Change is not something you do, it's something you allow.
Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you.Posted 5 months ago #-
hi jasmine,
you got the link to my blog? it's there =)
let me know what you think...hehehehehe...
and yes, weekend had been great. Though I missed my workout for 2 days, I didn't feel bad, most importantly I feel good.
Good friends + good food = good time! =)
God grant me the serenity to accept things that I cannot change....
The first step toward change is acceptance.
Change is not something you do, it's something you allow.
Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you.Posted 5 months ago # -
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Posted 5 months ago I wanted to share another story I shared in my blog in 2009:
There is an old Chinese tale about a woman whose only son died. In her grief, she went to the holy man and asked, "What prayers, what magical incantations do you have to bring my son back to life?"
Instead of sending her away or reasoning with her, he said to her, "Fetch me a mustard seed from a home that has never known sorrow. We will use it to drive the sorrow out of your life." The woman went off at once in search of that magical mustard seed.
She came first to a splendid mansion, knocked at the door, and said, "I am looking for a home that has never known sorrow. Is this such a place? It is very important to me." They told her, "You've certainly come to the wrong place," and began to describe all the tragic things that recently had befallen them.
The woman said to herself, "Who is better able to help these poor, unfortunate people than I, who have had misfortune of my own?" She stayed to comfort them, then went on in search of a home that had never known sorrow. But wherever she turned, in hotels and in other places, she found one tale after another of sadness and misfortune.
The woman became so involved in helping others cope with their sorrows that she eventually let go of her own. She would later come to understand that it was the quest to find the magical mustard seed that drove away her suffering.
To understand and to let go of our own suffering is to learn and comfort each other.
That's what we been doing here..and it shouldn't not just stop here. Why not reach out to others in need...I always had this habit of feeding stray cats or dogs whenever I saw them. It made me happy. Or when I dropped some change or a small note to the cup of a beggar, it made my day because at least, I learnt the more reason to be thankful because what I had been through is not as bad as what these unfortunate people/animals went through. Give with love, and love gets back to you. I had my faith in it.
Have a nice day!
God grant me the serenity to accept things that I cannot change....
The first step toward change is acceptance.
Change is not something you do, it's something you allow.
Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you.Posted 5 months ago #-
21/09/2011 - 12:40pm.
I slept earlier than my usual late night sleep pattern last night. Was supposed to go for morning jog but then...woke up at 6am, staring outside and tell myself, owh well...maybe just this once...sleep a little more instead of getting ready for the morning run~ LOL...I really need to disciplined myself...our local state-level paintball tournament is just 2 weeks away, can't afford to not stay fit and unprepared for a long weekend.
Wake up, feeling fine - I made it a habit to say 'thank you' the day that I will have today. Smiling at myself in the mirror, get myself ready. Had breakfast, feed my 9 cats and 4 dogs and then off to work.
It was lunch hour now, didn't feel like going out for lunch, just stay in the office having some light food and browsing around...but somehow, for unknown reasons I suddenly feel empty and down. Seriously, it just came out of nowhere...and it made me feel sad. So, instead of trying to find the reason, I leaned back, relax, took few deep breaths but it still seem not working. My mind was wandering around, I can't focus on 'positive things' and it's very disturbing.
Guess what, I searched through my music playlist and pick a song. It totally changed things almost instantly!
Now I had been playing the same song again and again, the more I listen to it, I feel better, and I am back to my happy self as I did started my morning.
If you wondering what song I was listening to...it's 'Lovely Day' by Bill Withers.
Today I learnt that sometimes thinking positive alone can't help...but listening to happy music that spreads the message of hope, happiness and joy can do wonders too!
When the day that lies ahead of me
Seems impossible to face
When someone else instead of me
Always seems to know the wayThen I look at you
And the world's alright with me
Just one look at you
And I know it's gonna be
A lovely day...have a nice lovely day everyone! be strong and positive!
God grant me the serenity to accept things that I cannot change....
The first step toward change is acceptance.
Change is not something you do, it's something you allow.
Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you.Posted 5 months ago # -
sweetcalendula
offlineMemberHi AB,
I planned to be more compliant to my exercise schedules as well when it all ended me up continuing my goodnight sleep. I guess it needs more determination. Huhu wish us luck for that.
Speaking of gratitude, you are right... changing the mindset to positive thoughts alone doesn't suffice. It really helps when we listen to empowering songs. All the positive ones will lift you up once again.
" Lovely Day " is a nice song! Honestly I couldn't listen to any love / sad songs before as I ended up crying, drifted all away to frustration land. But I took mini steps to have it all ears, and slowly I am able to cope up with it. I don't really weep on the sad love songs. I guess it takes consistency to be able to do that.
p/s Love your refreshing look!
Have a nice day! Hugs!
Posted 5 months ago #
But now you have got clear picture in front of you 
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